Not a politically correct opinion, but I would and did and have done absolutely everything in my power to help my daughter w/d from oxy, to guide her to a road of recovery. Hindsight being 20/20 I wouldn't do it any differently. Gosh, and I go to Al-Anon, where that is really not the mantra, but surprisingly how many parents and wives that actually live with addiction of a loved one, feel exactly as I do. If you scoot over to the "Sub Abuse Comm" at the top of this page, not here on the social side, you will see a lot of postings from me and other parents in your exact situation. Please check that out and please let me know if I can help you in anyway. Good luck Dad you are in for a long hard battle. The good news, it can be won, and your son can have a true life.
I am so sorry, I left you a message on the other forum where you had posted earlier to another mom that was asking about her daughter's addiction. I need my reading glasses, too much pc work today!!
It sounds like he's being administratively detoxed???
You have to keep in mind this is a "legal detox", not done for the patients benefits. basically, they drop you at a just slow enough dose so that they don't have to worry about lawsuits if the patient develops complications and dies (doesn't make sense...but that's the law).
If he's been on more than 20 mg's of methadone in the last month, you shouldn't try suboxone, it won't work...especially with the oxy's.
how long has he been on both drugs? I've got a faq in the health pages called "Methadone detox realities, part 1 & 2". You should check it out (I believe avisg posted part one up for me).
I've got a lot of experience with methadone and have detoxed down to the .5 mg's I'm on right now (no easy task) with the method I used... and I'll tell you, wanting to get off is great, but there are physical realities that no matter how much you want it can be overwhelming if not dealt with appropriately.