Why dont people stay on the forum

[bama88]

Ive noticed alot of good intentions here from people wanting to quit. I also noticed a pattern of people getting clean and then leaving. Does people think once they get clean they dont need us anymore?

Also if they slip up and use again are they so ashamed of being here? Is it something we say that makes them leave?

Or do they fail to put in the hard work? They arrive here in crisis mode and we support. We encourage. Then poof they are gone. I want your opinion on this subject?

I feel if your 100% commited to stoping. You need to be with rhis forum for awhile. Whether your detoxing thru tapering or cold turkey hanging around to help helps your sobriety. Plus its comforting to know were all in this together and the support and new friendships ease the lonliness and fears. Also its rewarding to help another addict. It reafirms your strength and support. whats your opinion

[Bkitty]

The first 3 weeks I was literally baby stepping. During those weeks I was so focused on how crappy I felt  I didnt realize I was taking huge steps towards recovery. The first 3 weeks again were more focused on physical symptoms. I set small goals the first 3 weeks for each day,,sometimes it was a simple as brushing my teeth and getting outta bed to go to aftercare. i also focused on getting on a schedule and was viligant of the times of the day that is was time for a pill,,during those times I distracted myself whether i came here and posted or went to NA.

im 73 days now,,Im back to work,,i focus on keeping a schedule and completing my work. Aftercare is over,,but I make sure I take my medications as prescribed and attend NA. Sometimes I dont say anything at NA and sometimes I cant shut up.

It was hard to break the pill habits,,but Im learning to replace them with healthy habits,,I no longer wake up wishing I had a pill to get going,,I simply get going and get in the shower and start my day. I still take it one day at a time. Taking care of myself is so hard for me to do and hard to learn to do as its uncomfortable. Uncomfortable is good. I need to get used to doing me. Thats some of my advice,,hopefully someone will find it useful. I obviously cant shut up tonight! LOLOL (((hugs bama))) How is bamaman?

[theaddict]

you know, there were SO many awesome members that i used to follow on here when i went through my detoxing period over a year ago, and never see them on here anymore. these were members that were just awesome. they were on everyday - or at least once a day. always had something nice to say or input to give. they knew what they were doing, in other words.

it really makes you think of what has happened to them. not in a bad way, but just praying that all is okay with them.

[Wanttobebetter2011]

Hi Bama! I'm still here.  I check in and read posts when I get up and before I go to bed, I'm like some of the others.  Sometimes I don't have a lot to say, or I'm too tired to type, lol.  I guess i'm a "lurker" too.  I love this site, it is a part of my after care.  Reading a lot of these posts, especially if I had a bad day and my coping skills are down, keeps me honest with myself and gives me reassurance.  On day 28!  

[cleangimnow]

I've been a member for a long time and pretty much lurk. You, gnarly, Sara, viki, and many more are great about giving advice. It's just hard to find the time with life continuing after the physical wds. However I am inspired to give back more.

[all_alone1]

I agree a lot of names I used to see when I first joined I don't see anymore....hopefull they as well are lurking about lol....

hello to all of you that are lurking about...new and old hope to see you comment soon

[vicki595]

I DID read this and saw your PMS comment. Are you feeling better? lol

People tend to come and go and it is interesting to watch the trends...

There are more folks who are here and NOT posting than you would imagine!   People tend to drift once the major crisis is over and many find the forum depressing once they are in recovery. It's very individual.

When we do "roll call" you'll see a lot of friends check in...