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You guys are the Best!
I have lurked and posted maybe 2 times before but forgot my passwords, etc.
This forum has made a huge difference for me. You all accept people as they come with no qualms. I have been on other websites where it seemed the "clean date" was so important. I am not saying that we should not strive for this but it takes some of us a couple or more times to achieve this. I hit myself continually for relapse, no one needs to do this because I am constantly down about this but I do not feel I would get that here. You guys seem to really care.
Thanks for giving positive reinforcement and helping others try to achieve sobriety.
Delilah
This forum has made a huge difference for me. You all accept people as they come with no qualms. I have been on other websites where it seemed the "clean date" was so important. I am not saying that we should not strive for this but it takes some of us a couple or more times to achieve this. I hit myself continually for relapse, no one needs to do this because I am constantly down about this but I do not feel I would get that here. You guys seem to really care.
Thanks for giving positive reinforcement and helping others try to achieve sobriety.
Delilah
Absolutely ! now some may say that I am being a hypocrite, but before you do, I have a hard time taking the forum seriously. When it is "serious" I am serious, when its a playground, I treat it as such. When I see the same people coming in here and contradicting themselves...hell, I will call them on it. I butt heads with my a lot of people for this very reason. When I see people constantly coming in here and seeking pacification for relapsing for the 3rd time, It feels like a cheese grater on my forehead. Its a catch 22 because if you went to NA, AA, or your doctor.....they are not going to pacify you and tell you its ok. Your doctor would throw up his hands, and not pacify you.......
Its very frustrating. But, I do have to say that Private Messaging did ruin this forum and made it a circus, for people to gain strength in numbers and they hide behind it, and are doing the very thing that they are complaining about on the open forum, because they are cowards that hide behind the PMs....people post and are attacked for no reason, If you have something to say to someone new that comes in here....and your going to beat them up in private message.....thats really not fair.
Nauty............
Its very frustrating. But, I do have to say that Private Messaging did ruin this forum and made it a circus, for people to gain strength in numbers and they hide behind it, and are doing the very thing that they are complaining about on the open forum, because they are cowards that hide behind the PMs....people post and are attacked for no reason, If you have something to say to someone new that comes in here....and your going to beat them up in private message.....thats really not fair.
Nauty............
Ya I hear you thats why I have been coming and going too! I have made great friends here but sometimes I feel weaker by being here not stronger. You know when people make excuses or talk about the old days it makes it very hard for me to then get through the day. Like you told me, i havent forgotten where I come from nor will I ever but know exactly what you are saying and I want to be here for the people that want someone to talk to and are serious about quitting but other times the questions like, "can i use this drug with this pill and still be ok" "if I snort this will my nose bleed?" drives me nuts and I know dont message me no one really asked that I was just being dramatic to make a point. So just want to say those who take it serious, good for you those that dont, take it to myspace or something.........
or "forgot password"
To comment on your comment..lol. About this being such a 'Great Place"......Well, I am going back and fourth on that one. I have recently been discovering other forums and am really starting to question the integrity of this forum.
In other forums I have visited. I don't see a whole lotta people forming clicq's (sp) not a lot of negativity, gossip, backstabbing.etc. These are people serious about sobriety, and they all talk socially---drama free. Relapse is not a soft pillow with these people. they don't pacify you when you relapse--you are sent to the corner to read your steps...Thats a real sobriety forum.
With Med-Help it is more of an informational site, which is fantastic...you don't see many like this around. I guess thats why you see the gaggle of clutter here all the time......what do say about a forum that needs 24 hour baby sitting, and the only reason they need it is because of the high volume of "regulars". This is not only an informational site, but a chat room as well, which is tearing down the integrity of the site also.
How productive is this site against the other sites.......completely Non-Productive as long as Private Messaging is around. Who puts private messaging on a site like this. This forum has the highest volume of all, and is making med-help money every time we log in and send private messages , and oh, accidentally click the advertising ...lol.
anyway, my point is.......people come and go like the wind here. I think sometimes this place encourages people to use---Yes I said it----because if we pacify everyone every time they come in --telling them its ok, and to get back on the horse...etc. Hell thats what I would want to hear. I would rather hear that then what I would hear from a sponsor or AA meeting to justify my use. Please don't give me **** .......you know I am right to some degree.......
In conclusion...lol......I do think med-help is a Fantastic site for Informational purposes, but, otherwise is a bumbling mess that is being encouraged by whomever runs this thang.......(love you, Harry)...lol. Just try branching out to other sites and you will see what I mean.......better yet....try a meeting.
nauty......
To comment on your comment..lol. About this being such a 'Great Place"......Well, I am going back and fourth on that one. I have recently been discovering other forums and am really starting to question the integrity of this forum.
In other forums I have visited. I don't see a whole lotta people forming clicq's (sp) not a lot of negativity, gossip, backstabbing.etc. These are people serious about sobriety, and they all talk socially---drama free. Relapse is not a soft pillow with these people. they don't pacify you when you relapse--you are sent to the corner to read your steps...Thats a real sobriety forum.
With Med-Help it is more of an informational site, which is fantastic...you don't see many like this around. I guess thats why you see the gaggle of clutter here all the time......what do say about a forum that needs 24 hour baby sitting, and the only reason they need it is because of the high volume of "regulars". This is not only an informational site, but a chat room as well, which is tearing down the integrity of the site also.
How productive is this site against the other sites.......completely Non-Productive as long as Private Messaging is around. Who puts private messaging on a site like this. This forum has the highest volume of all, and is making med-help money every time we log in and send private messages , and oh, accidentally click the advertising ...lol.
anyway, my point is.......people come and go like the wind here. I think sometimes this place encourages people to use---Yes I said it----because if we pacify everyone every time they come in --telling them its ok, and to get back on the horse...etc. Hell thats what I would want to hear. I would rather hear that then what I would hear from a sponsor or AA meeting to justify my use. Please don't give me **** .......you know I am right to some degree.......
In conclusion...lol......I do think med-help is a Fantastic site for Informational purposes, but, otherwise is a bumbling mess that is being encouraged by whomever runs this thang.......(love you, Harry)...lol. Just try branching out to other sites and you will see what I mean.......better yet....try a meeting.
nauty......
you can get right back where you are on this site if you click the link in your e-mail. thats what i have been doing
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