How to quit when spouse/sig other doesn't want to?

[bubbles1096]

This is a hard one to explain but with me quitting, it's been even harder for me to quit when my spouse (soon to be former spouse) continues to use. He has given me no indication he will stop either and it is real hard to try and quit when you get no support from the one who should be supporting you the most. At least we arent' in the same house anymore, but I really don't have anyone else to go to. My family just doesn't understand, my sister is here for me to a certain extent, but she puts the blame on me for my divorce and puts me down for abusing prescription pills when I should be clean and straight taking care of the kids.

Ugh, being alone and goign through this can drive a person crazy!

[Savas]

Since you can't make the people you know be supportive what you need to do is find people who will support you.

This is one of those cases where I suggest the person (you) go to a NA or SMART meeting. One of the hardest things you can go through is realizing you're all alone in this... when you don't have to be.

Hey, we'll all be here to be supportive, but I think in this case you could use that in person, face to face touch.

If transportation is and issue... pick up a phone and call NA. I understand they're very good about giving transportation.

[Mikeinthesouth]

I think that staying clean is a struggle to just exist here and not be put in our dirt beds early so I would think that it is of utmost importance over all things. I know relationships can end I am in the process of getting all the line crossed and is dotted to end a 12.5 relationship so it is possible. I want to eventually get on with my life whether it be single or dating someone but I have to put that highest on my agenda or I use and proved that over and over to myself..........

[bubbles1096]

Thanks for your help, I will post this at the other forum

[joann1975]

Bubbles... I am so sorry you are going through this. You do have to separate yourself from people who use when clean...so that's hard advice to give b/c it's your spouse. I haven't been in your shoes...so I don't have advice based on experience... BUT if you will post this on the other forum (the substance abuse forum) there is more action related to quitting over there and you will get ALOT more responses and find people who have been in your shoes...I know they are here! Sorry I couldn't help more than that... I wish you the best!
JoAnn