Observation and update-Amazed and a little proud

[Needhelp59]

Hi to all my friends here.  I just had to give you the sister update.  I got a call from her (which is a miracle) and after all that happened yesterday, she did not even MENTION it.  You remember I said she had lost her job...now she has it in her head to sue her employer....who let her go because of theft.  WTF?

And guess what.  I have her daughter, and she never, ONE FREAKING TIME, asked about her.  How is that for messed up?
I was re-reading my posts from the beginning this morning, and boy, what a soap opera. I have to say I am downright proud of myself that I have not taken anything thru all this (well, that 1 xanax with the episode with my grandmother), but that is all.  And you know what else?  I haven't even really thought about it.  I guess with my concern for my neice and nephews, it just did not cross my mind.  I put them first and forged ahead.  That seems like a milestone.  Just had to update you all.  You have been so supportive, sweet and kind to me.  

[Needhelp59]

Thanks so much.  You know I have always been a real nurturer, so it is like 2nd nature to me.  I am glad that I have been able to do what I have done, and wish I could do more.   Nursegirl, you are right - he is part of the problem.  I am not saying he caused the drug issue, but he certainly could have stepped up better than he has (he--, anything at all would be better).  Like I said, it is as if as long as he can do his thing, he doesn't care what she does.  Also this has been a lesson to me that we can overcome a heck of a lot.  You know the bible says God never give us more than we can stand, and I am a testament to that.  So for all that are struggling, hang in there - you can do it!  Thanks to all of you - you are the greatest!!

[nursegirl6572]

Wow...how awesome.  See...when there is such a big reason to stay away from the evil meds....it's like second nature.  Way to go!  I just wish your sister was in a better place.  :0(  Sounds like she is doing a lot of painting herself as the perpetual victim and not taking any responsibility for herself.  That's a shame.

I truly hope she wakes up and realizes what is at stake here for her...and how lucky she is to have a sister like you to help her so much and to love and care for her kids when she isn't capable.

Keep up the good work...those kids are probably so happy to feel safe and loved and taken care of.  You would think her husband would have rushed home early or something?  Course, he's part of the problem.

Good luck.

[mommy52713]

good for you you sound like a great sister and a wonderful aunt to the kids.Like addictedme said keep doing good things and you can expect great things to happen. wishing you the best

[addictedme]

Probably not the 1st time good things have happened because of thinking of others 1st. Your doing a good thing so expect good things to happen. Keep being that example we talked about and pray for your sister,,,cant think of anything that would be more positive for her right now,,,gl

[joann1975]

You are doing great! Your sister is lucky and doesn't even know it...and the kiddos are lucky too!

[cathy5841]

you are such a great person...and sister.  seems all the responsibility is falling in your lap and you are handleing it well.  just keep it up.
much love
cathy