Help with my son

[concernedmom422]

My 21 year old son has come to me for help. He says he has been taking Roxy's and can't stop.  HIs body aches so bad in the morning that he needs one to go to work.  What do I do?  Do I take him to the doctor to get help..what is the process for getting off these things

[LateAugust]

I am a mom of a 21yr old daughter addicted to oxy.     She came to us in April of this year, saying that she needed help  and that she was on oxy.     Yes, it is great that your son told you he needed help  and you have a good enough relationship that he felt comfortable coming to you with the truth,  not easy for an addict to do.  I knew that my child was in a lot of trouble, prior to her being honest about how bad her addiction was effecting her life and that she was scared.  It was so very obvious, but she lied for a long time.       And could keep it going for a while,  college full time,  worked at a bank,  still the same good friends.......but she could only keep the facade up for a while,   because it all came tumbling down.


You are at the very beginning,  an infant's step toward your son's sobriety.   I will tell you this is one of the hardest times of my life,  and if you read any of my previous posts, I have put my daughter's needs prior to mine, unconditionally.   That is my decision, and one that you will have to make as well.    

I recommend you get him to his doctor asap for a complete drug evaluation, if your doc is not familiar with drug abuse, I am sure he will refer you to another proffesional.      We went to a psychiatrist, an addiction councelor,  NA  for my daughter   Al Anon for me...   and she would quit,   and a week  or   2 weeks  later  relapse  time after time  after time...    I was drug testing at home.        She didn't want to go in patient so I was and am pretty much the detox center.    I am  the only one that stuck with the meetings (Al-Anon)      

After 3 very long months, my daughter finally called and made arrangements for inpatient treatment.    I couldn't trust her, so I called and verified that she did have a bed reserved for August 1st.       I will fight my daughter's addiction with every ounce of my being,  but please know, everything that comes out of an addict's mouth is a lie.  

Be prepared that for every opinion you get in how to deal with this,  the next one is different,  don't let this "bogg" you down.  Only you know your son, only you know your heart, and only you know your limitations of what you can  or will  or are able to do.

I know this probably reads  confusing,  but it is an incredibly confusing place to be......we never expect to deal with this......not our kids.    Addiction knows no  race, religion, economic or social background.

Get some help for you       just as you  do for your  son  very quickly.   If  you want to talk  pls  msg me.  My thoughts are with you.  Jeanette

PS  Pls  be prepared for how hard this will be   not  only for your son  but your entire family,   there  is support,  please take all you can get,  you need to stay so very strong.

[lady67]

I think it is awesome that he came to you for help.  Letting another person know about my addiction was the hardest thing I ever had to do.  My husband was understanding and supportive and so glad that I came to him and unfortunately confirmed the fears he had for a long time.  I could not be at day 62 without him.  

Please be totally involved in your son's recovery.  He will try to push you away and do things to get rid of you, but stay close.  I did everything I could think of to drive my husband away, but he didn't go and I thank God everyday for that.

I will be praying for you
Susan

[extrmeski]

Roxy's are fast acting oxycodone a powerful opiate.  The best thing you can do for him is to try and understand, these things are easy to get hooked on and hard to get off.  Sounds like you have a good relationship with him for him to come to you.  Sit him down and see if you can get some information from him.  Sounds like he is in some sort of pain, now whether or not he needs something that powerful to eliminate the pain is up for debate.  GoingToMakeit had some good questions, but a visit to the doctor is a good thing to isolate the source of the pain.
Don't focus on detox as the first course of action, focus on the pain, the source and the severity.  Hope that this helps

[Coolio Hernendez]

You should really get a doctor involved...Without some type of pro help....Trust me he will not be able to stay clean.....He will need some helper meds at the least.
It's not just him it's just how everybody is.....It dosent matter how well put together you think you are or how you thought you could handle it...

Good Luck.

[GoingToMakeIt]

Some things that will help us.
How long has he been taking them?
What quantity does he take per dose and per day?
Does he have a legitimate need for pain pills?

[twolve]

Honestly I know your probably a little shaken by finding this out, but that's a really good thing that he came to you and I can't even begin to describe how hard that must have been for him to do that. There are some in-patient and out-patient detox programs, but I would definitely consult your doctor and he should be able to point you in the right direction. I really hope everything works out for him.