Many Struggles today~

[dominosarah]

I saw so many people struggling today.  My question is why didnt anyone post a thread on the forum.  This is a "we" thing, not an "i" thing.  Cravings are a very difficult thing and should be taken seriously.  This needs to be talked about as it helps us all.

[mommymarieme]

I have been struggling so bad the last few days but I know this is terrible I feel if I post I will not get many responses and then I will feel worse about myself  so I just try to keep it to myself and read others posts so I can feel encouragement. I know that is so stupid but I have  a bit of social anxiety.  You all are very amazing to me I just want you to know that. This is one tough battle.

[weaver71]

Though I have made friends in the bipolar forum, it is not like this one, nothing is close to how awesome this addiction forum is, not even other web sites. We have something real special here. I think as we get more time behind us, we don't want to post as much for ourself. In the time I've been here, I don't think I've seen IBKlean, Sarah, or any old timers with more than a couple years post for themselves. We never stop struggling at times, even non addicts have the same experience. I wonder if there is some way people with more time could post somewhere else. I personally never cared if people I was advising saw me struggle, but I can see how that would be hard for many. We want to be the rock that a person in detox could rely on. That is why I like the aftercare study in the Big Book group we are trying to get started. That may be a good place to share in addition to status. I have read a few people feeling like new comers are getting pushed down with the status conversation. I've noticed it myself. On the other hand, it seems like it could be good for new comers to see that we continue to need each other, no matter how much time we have. I think I need you guys as much now as I did on day one. I don't know the answer, that is why I started my journal entries to make my own thread that folks know where to find it. What do you think Sarah? Is there a better way to make sure everyone gets heard, while the older folks continue to feel like reaching out or socializing isn't making the new people feel like outsiders? Or do you think it's best to just post a question as usual?

[ricart70]

VIc and Rosy !!  You guys did great . You guys did what you were supposed to do. You voiced your struggles and you stayed there for support. I will tell you I just hope to the powers that be that I will do exactly the same thing when (not if) I go through a trying time !!!  You guys are awesome ;))

[VICourageous]

I agree Happy..I did not want to put my issues out to the whole world yesterday. Maybe I should of, but I did not want to disappoint the new ones with there positive attitude right now. A Positive Attitude will get them far.
I vented in my Status and got walked through it while I sat here. It all worked out and it made the cravings go away by talking with some of my MH friends. ANYBODY could of came in. I even said so. I needed feedback. I also wanted to hear from some with a long time in to see if these cravings ever go away. I guess we ALL our different in that matter. Maybe next time I will put it out here now..lol

[ricart70]

I made the roll call post to try to help cheer people up and put their clean time out there in black and white to see the value and maybe let us in on struggles but as I look back I should have titled it "roll call/what's your struggle ? "    I doubt it would have made a difference to the ones who posted once about their struggle and left and didn't answer when we reached out. Some people are going to do what they are going to do. I have been one of those people.Sometimes we snap .It is sad

[HappyDays2Come]

Perhaps I misunderstood, but I read this as a question as to why people did not specifically reach out by posting at thread on this forum and, instead, chose to do so via a status update/journal/etc. People did reach out yesterday through other means and, in my opinion, that is what is important. Maybe they don't feel comfortable reaching out on such a large community or perhaps they only want to vent without expectations of receiving feedback.

I'm honestly still learning the ropes around here and trying to understand how everything works. I hope I'm not offending anyone...I'm just genuinely curious as to why it matters how someone reaches out as long as it's being done.