Aa
its only been seven hours
Starting to feel like crap .my boyfriend treating like its all my fault deal with its being really mean.I have no support.
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Your right about the xanex....i dont find it does any good with getting any sleep unless following the thomas taper. In fact, it just makes you more tired and still cant sleep???
Your doing just fine....are u eating and drinking? Remember, even though im sure you have no appetite, you must eat and drink healthy! Protein shakes, high vitamin meal bars, etc....if you cant stomach like a plate of food. I found i let the no eating thing go too far and it made me feel worse than i needed too. Bananas now for your legs and something i picked up when detoxing for the rls...tell your old man to get u some tight, diabetic stockings for your legs. Available at drugstores...ugly as **** but the tightness seems to work for rls. Theres also hylands rls homeopathic med for the rls.
Your doing just fine....are u eating and drinking? Remember, even though im sure you have no appetite, you must eat and drink healthy! Protein shakes, high vitamin meal bars, etc....if you cant stomach like a plate of food. I found i let the no eating thing go too far and it made me feel worse than i needed too. Bananas now for your legs and something i picked up when detoxing for the rls...tell your old man to get u some tight, diabetic stockings for your legs. Available at drugstores...ugly as **** but the tightness seems to work for rls. Theres also hylands rls homeopathic med for the rls.
And honestly take the time you have yourself to just be alone. The quiet time is good.
We CAN'T expect others who do not use to know or understand. I have been on both side and I will say being with an addict is not easy at all. The wondering how long it will last, what will happen next, if they will OD or hurt themselves etc etc is horrible. So the understanding goes both ways. You have to consider his feelings too.
Maybe you can sit him down,tell him you are sorry you go it this position but it wasn't intentional. Tell him what your plans are after you get thru the wds. And ask him what he is thinking and how he feels. Men sometimes hide there fears behind walls too. He could be scared and trying to block it out. You don't know.
Listen to him. Everything. Then tell him how his actions have made you feel and give some responses to what he said when he spoke. Don't get mad. Let him vent if he needs. This is not an argument.
You may be very surprised by him. Or you may learn what you need to continue the relationship or not.
You aw doing good. You can keep going.
We CAN'T expect others who do not use to know or understand. I have been on both side and I will say being with an addict is not easy at all. The wondering how long it will last, what will happen next, if they will OD or hurt themselves etc etc is horrible. So the understanding goes both ways. You have to consider his feelings too.
Maybe you can sit him down,tell him you are sorry you go it this position but it wasn't intentional. Tell him what your plans are after you get thru the wds. And ask him what he is thinking and how he feels. Men sometimes hide there fears behind walls too. He could be scared and trying to block it out. You don't know.
Listen to him. Everything. Then tell him how his actions have made you feel and give some responses to what he said when he spoke. Don't get mad. Let him vent if he needs. This is not an argument.
You may be very surprised by him. Or you may learn what you need to continue the relationship or not.
You aw doing good. You can keep going.
Took another xanax and fell asleep for there hours. I'm thirty hours in now feeling really bad.I don't know if I can do this for much longer.
Glad you got some sleep , I wish I could say the same I took some xanax but didn't really help to much.I'm prescribed them with slot of other antidepressants.
Thought I'd be here more often; but, so far I've slept 5 hours. I know it's getting worse. Day 3 seems to be the mountain you'll have to cross. You've gotten this far! Stay strong.
so sorry you had to go thru that with your husband,my heart goes out to you. Well im almost at twenty four hours .didnt sleep much got rls pretty bad ,headache and some other things going on..i wish this wa over but i knoe it gets worse.
Dedicated, I read your post to Slneedshelp and I was quite impressed by the fact that you're on day three of detoxing yet your still giving support and help to others. Day 3 can be the worst of the worse. I am also sorry that your husband is not as supportive as he should be but I agree with you that you need to make your sobriety about yourself. You need to be shellfish with your sobriety. Your sobriety needs to come first over everything. If it doesn't come first you will lose everything that's important to you. By making sobriety your first priority everything else will fall in line including your happiness. Don't beat yourself up for relapsing. Pat yourself on the back for getting right back up on the right path. God Bless, BD
Slneedshelp... I'm sure there is a lot to your relationship that we don't know... but on the surface... dang girl... he seems cold as ice if he can just go off knowing what you're going through.
I know maybe he just doesn't understand. But this is a real illness and you are trying to get better. Would he do the same if you were sick with some other disease? Is he addicted to anything... even if its just cigarettes?
My husband was seriously ill for 20 of our 25 years of marriage. He had a major heart attack at age 29. He was in good shape. A police officer...but turns out he had a genetically high clotting factor. He was working out at the station and a clot formed. He almost died and they really didn't think he'd make it the night...he did. Then they said he wouldn't make it a year. He did and even recovered enough to work desk/radio duty for 8 years...but they said his heart was so damaged he would need a transplant or die in 5 years. He lived 20 years with no transplant. He did finally have to take medical retirement but did fairly. well until about 5 years before he passed. There were many hospital stays though and many nights I went without sleep because I'd have to take him to the ER for his heart or migraines caused by his low blood flow...or his back that they couldn't operate on because of his heart...or his defibrillator went off.... and then I'd have to work the next day because if I'd taken off everytime he was sick we wouldn't have had a roof over our heads. He passed away a year and a half ago and I would do it all a hundred times over to have more time with him.
I say all that because I did what a partner should do. You don't walk away when a loved one is sick. If he can't support you getting clean is he worth worrying about?
Anyway... I was given fiorcet with codeine to handle my migraine and tension headaches. My doctor isn't really worried about my use but I've been on them so long that I am physically dependent so I'm taking them everyday and I'm sick of being tied to the bottle and the anxiety it creates so I've just started the process of tapering off. I cant cold turkey because doing that after so long on fiorocet could cause a seizure and I have to work.
I've just started the Thomas recipe of supplements to help and I recommend you look into that. They help. I think you should look up an AA/NA meeting. I think having the support would help you with more than just getting through the wd.
I know maybe he just doesn't understand. But this is a real illness and you are trying to get better. Would he do the same if you were sick with some other disease? Is he addicted to anything... even if its just cigarettes?
My husband was seriously ill for 20 of our 25 years of marriage. He had a major heart attack at age 29. He was in good shape. A police officer...but turns out he had a genetically high clotting factor. He was working out at the station and a clot formed. He almost died and they really didn't think he'd make it the night...he did. Then they said he wouldn't make it a year. He did and even recovered enough to work desk/radio duty for 8 years...but they said his heart was so damaged he would need a transplant or die in 5 years. He lived 20 years with no transplant. He did finally have to take medical retirement but did fairly. well until about 5 years before he passed. There were many hospital stays though and many nights I went without sleep because I'd have to take him to the ER for his heart or migraines caused by his low blood flow...or his back that they couldn't operate on because of his heart...or his defibrillator went off.... and then I'd have to work the next day because if I'd taken off everytime he was sick we wouldn't have had a roof over our heads. He passed away a year and a half ago and I would do it all a hundred times over to have more time with him.
I say all that because I did what a partner should do. You don't walk away when a loved one is sick. If he can't support you getting clean is he worth worrying about?
Anyway... I was given fiorcet with codeine to handle my migraine and tension headaches. My doctor isn't really worried about my use but I've been on them so long that I am physically dependent so I'm taking them everyday and I'm sick of being tied to the bottle and the anxiety it creates so I've just started the process of tapering off. I cant cold turkey because doing that after so long on fiorocet could cause a seizure and I have to work.
I've just started the Thomas recipe of supplements to help and I recommend you look into that. They help. I think you should look up an AA/NA meeting. I think having the support would help you with more than just getting through the wd.
You won't be alone. All who have been talking will be there with you. As you head into some of the worse wd, maybe it's better he not be there. RLS makes everyone nuts I think. That creepy crawley feeling can be unbearable. But it passes pretty fast. Just decide that you're seeing this through.
I'll check in on this thread frequently for the next few.
Stay strong
I'll check in on this thread frequently for the next few.
Stay strong
sorry to hear that.he is being a little better now . Refuses to stay home tomorrow rather go hang out with friend I'll be alone all day. That's fine with me .
The restlessness / agitation is the worst thing for me. It was worst on Day 3; but, I'm still feeling it at a low level. Very annoying. Started vomiting Day 4, which stopped the diarrhea. lol. Both of those stopped by 6. Not much else except the skin on my legs feels like it's been burned. Stings when I'm in the tub. Hot bath helps with restlessness. I kept jumping up and pacing at it's worse. It eased in 24 hours.
It seemed too easy but the continued restlessness and insomnia are trying my soul.
Stay strong and decide if the good times with your guy are so good that they make this bad behavior worth while. First husband was possessive and worked through the progression to abusive. I would have done anything for him. Just couldn't make him happy. Finally left to save myself.
It seemed too easy but the continued restlessness and insomnia are trying my soul.
Stay strong and decide if the good times with your guy are so good that they make this bad behavior worth while. First husband was possessive and worked through the progression to abusive. I would have done anything for him. Just couldn't make him happy. Finally left to save myself.
Do you really love and need this boyfriend? You will eventually get through the withdrawal if you stick with it but you will always be an addict. If he loves you he will do the work to learn what that means but it sounds like he's not a very empathetic person to start with. My husband and I were married for 25 years and there were lots of good and bad times. This is just the tip of the iceberg honey and if he can't deal with this he's going to act the same way about other things down the road. That said... you are going through something difficult so don't make any life altering decisions right now. Just concentrate on your battle. Find an N/A meeting for support. You might even ask him to attend with you or one for loved ones. When things have settled down...then take another look at this relationship. You deserve good people in your life.
Wow thanks for the info . I'm twelve hours in I think my legs and feet hurt so bad and I am really restless what's next.keep the stories coming they help.
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Also, start that Thomas Taper....you will sleep for the first 3 days...so you won't need to listen to your partner! lol, just sleep.....coming off of norco's this taper WILL work for you...my doc (ended w/ suboxone) this really didn't work b/c the main w/d didn't come on until like 2 weeks in...total of 3/4 weeks for the suboxone, norco's 5 days, maybe 6, so sleep for 3 of them!
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I am a wife (24 years), a mother of 4 children, business owner, and an addict! Addiction is not selective....it attacks many. I made the decision on Jan 1st, 2014, to put the suboxone down of which I had no idea how long or how bad the withdrawals would be.
I started using drugs at 12 and decided to "lessen" the drugs once I started having children, meaning I could stay clean for about 10 months at a time. Once I got older, working full time, running around after 4 children is when I found opiates. They were like a miracle...omg....I could work, still have energy for the kids, still cook, still clean, still pay attention to my husband, still be vice president of my kids local PTA board, get the kids to football practice, cheerleading practice, etc.... I didn't intend to stay on them as long as i did, but one day I woke up and my kids were teenagers and I don't know where I was? I missed it. I wanted to quit but couldn't handle the w/d ( I was taking 10 - 15 hydro's or norcos a day) so this is where I found suboxone. If I would have known then, what I know now, i would have NEVER switched, I would have just w/d off of the opiates. Then I blinked again, and another 7 years went by being on the subs????
My point of telling you this is I was missing my own life??? I'm not sure if that makes any sense, but you won't see it until you get the dope out of your system and realize just how numb you really were.
I'm sorry to hear that your partner is not supportive, but this isn't really about him, it's about you. This is something you want, right? Don't allow his actions to be an excuse to get you to use, b/c the only one your hurting is you. You are alot stronger than you think...we all are...we just don't see it at first but you will. Just roll with the w/d...if you feel bad, lay down, achey, get in an epsom salt bath. Did you get the vitamins and minerals necessary to do this? High proteins, vit c, magnesium, potassium, etc...
I started using drugs at 12 and decided to "lessen" the drugs once I started having children, meaning I could stay clean for about 10 months at a time. Once I got older, working full time, running around after 4 children is when I found opiates. They were like a miracle...omg....I could work, still have energy for the kids, still cook, still clean, still pay attention to my husband, still be vice president of my kids local PTA board, get the kids to football practice, cheerleading practice, etc.... I didn't intend to stay on them as long as i did, but one day I woke up and my kids were teenagers and I don't know where I was? I missed it. I wanted to quit but couldn't handle the w/d ( I was taking 10 - 15 hydro's or norcos a day) so this is where I found suboxone. If I would have known then, what I know now, i would have NEVER switched, I would have just w/d off of the opiates. Then I blinked again, and another 7 years went by being on the subs????
My point of telling you this is I was missing my own life??? I'm not sure if that makes any sense, but you won't see it until you get the dope out of your system and realize just how numb you really were.
I'm sorry to hear that your partner is not supportive, but this isn't really about him, it's about you. This is something you want, right? Don't allow his actions to be an excuse to get you to use, b/c the only one your hurting is you. You are alot stronger than you think...we all are...we just don't see it at first but you will. Just roll with the w/d...if you feel bad, lay down, achey, get in an epsom salt bath. Did you get the vitamins and minerals necessary to do this? High proteins, vit c, magnesium, potassium, etc...
My story isn't too inspiring-but- back problems began when I was still young. 5 spinal surgeries with continuing problems. Then caught Lyme's disease which gave me arthritis in my hands. 7 surgeries there. Until maybe 7 yrs ago I'd only take norco's for short periods of time. My husband was in a serious accident then and the stress, both physical and mental, I began using more regularly. I build tolerance rapidly so kept needing more. Recent hand surgery became infected with MRSA. Very painful stuff. My surgeon gave me 10 10/325's a day and I used those and more. Kindof ran out over holidays. Ran out 9 days ago. Day 3 was worst for me plus I just don't sleep. Went 4 days no sleep then slept 5 hours. Last night was wide awake again. Probably again tonight. Spending time here has kept me straight since there are plenty of pills in the house.
Stay strong sweetie, you can do this.
Stay strong sweetie, you can do this.
My first time my Husband was a complete ***!!! It was terrible! He would tell me that I needed to get up and suck it up! Thy just don't get it. I was 30 days clean and slipped the last month so I am back at day 3 right now and yes, my husband is being a jerk again. Not as bad this time though! What I learned is that I am doing this for ME!! Yes right now it's all about ME! You have to do the same! It's all about YOU right now! That's the only way your going to get through it is if you put yourself first. They just don't get it, and honestly I wouldn't wish it on anyone! Keep posting! The only support I get I here, I don't get it from home. Post away, we are always here for you!
Xoxo
Xoxo
thanks for your comments .I would like to hear some inspiring stories about what its was like when you were addicted and what made the decision to quit.if anyone cares to share .
That's one to kick to the curb. Of course, my husband (2nd) is trying very hard to be supportive. Problem is that he can't stand to see me suffering and tells me it's ok to take a pill. I hurt afterall.
You must take care of yourself before you can be there for anyone else. Do this for YOU! If it was your fault, ok, fix it and stop the pills. The people on this site will support you! W/d *****; but, it's over in just a few days. Then you have the rest of your life to be happy and free.
Good luck and stay well.
I'm still not sleeping so I'm usually on here much of the night. Stay strong sweetie, it does pass.
You must take care of yourself before you can be there for anyone else. Do this for YOU! If it was your fault, ok, fix it and stop the pills. The people on this site will support you! W/d *****; but, it's over in just a few days. Then you have the rest of your life to be happy and free.
Good luck and stay well.
I'm still not sleeping so I'm usually on here much of the night. Stay strong sweetie, it does pass.
Im sorry your boyfriend isnt being supportive. Does he understand anything about addiction? Maybe let him read some of the posts on here so he has some idea of how you will be feeling for the next few days! It is hard without support....I had my 22 year old son at home but I didnt get into too much detail with him about it.....so all my initial support came from here on med help! Just post everyday, as many times as you need to and someone is always around to help you pull through the rough times!!!! Keep hanging in there!!!!!
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