can party?

[sunny_ao]

i have been sober for  about 7 months now. i do feel really good about and i am thankful to God for helping me out all this time. But i have always loved party's, clubs  music, Dancing. stuff. it's has been a long time since I've gone to one. i really want to go But is it safe for me to go at a club? or is it that i can never go to a party or club for the rest of my life if i want to stay sober?

[vicki595]

You received from great,thoughtful responses...I just want to share one thing with you:

Don't ever confuse HAPPINESS with FUN.  Okay?  If you do that, you'll have your answer.

[Rich99]

"""is it safe for me to go at a club? """"
no, no and a thousand more times no!

[rockbottom1970]

Just my opinion - if I had to vote, I would say don't go, not yet.  But, if you do decide to go, and it's up to you, you know that right?,  maybe you should go with friends that know your situation!!  This way they can be there to support and protect you and more importantly protect the thing you rightfully fought to get for 7 months and that's your sobriety!!!  Have an exit plan and get out at the first hint of trouble.  Good Luck.....KJ

[Htownnofrown]

In AA we know that sobriety is our #1 priority, but we also know that we don't have to give up the things we love. At a certain point in our sobriety, typically when we are finished working the steps with a sponsor, there is no place in the world we cannot go as long as we have a valid reason for being there. I've been to bars, clubs, and plenty of other places where drinking was in my face, but I always had a good reason to go. Whether it was a concert, a birthday party for a friend, or just to socialize with some friends, I've been able to go to these places and remain sober because through working the steps, I've been maintaining my spiritual condition. With the help of my higher power, I've been able to be around drinking and not be tempted to join in.

There isn't a time-frame on how long it takes to get to the point where we can do this, however. 7 months is a long time but relatively speaking, it is still quite young in recovery. Only you (and if your in the program, more importantly, your sponsor) can tell if your ready or not for this type of thing. If you do go, have an exit strategy so that if you start feeling uncomfortable, you are able to leave at your convenience. Keep some sober friends on speed dial, too. Good luck!

[dominosarah]

Congrats on 7 months sober!!  I would stay out of the clubs right now.  No sense putting yourself thru that.  Make your sobriety the No1 priority in your life and do whatever it takes to stay sober........sara

[ang_811]

I wouldnt risk it. Think of whats on the line. Your life. So y risk it? Y even take the chance? I dont do anything now that will jeopardize my sobriety...ang.

[BrotherFrankie]

would you light a cigar with a stick of dynomite?

same thing..

insanity.

[sudie58]

i really think thats down to the individual, and perhaps how long they have been in recovery, you have to think deeply about this, i dont think its like you can never party again, you dont need to be high to do that, but you do need to know yourself and what your triggers may be, for myself , i am an alcoholic in recovery, also addicted to pain pills,opiates, i have been to a few pubs(am in uk) and one party, and i still enjoyed myself dry.i was wary at first, but there was no way i was going to lose my sobriety, i would have run home if i felt tempted, only you can really know when you will be ready, the main thing is to have some support such as AA/NA, that certainly helped me stay on the right path!, you can enjoy dancing etc, it may be different than when you were high, so look out for that, its what i found, being in the pub sober was a lot different than before, you have to accept that, but still have fun . being sober isnt the end of fun, but dont risk losing it! best wishes, sudie.

[narla]

Only you can decide if you are strong enough to fight temptation,Are you willing to risk it?Is it worth risking it?
Personally I do go to clubs where people are drinking and I haven't been tempted,but when I did drink I did most of my drinking at home alone so it doesn't really become a trigger for me,my biggest trigger is at home alone.

Think very carefully before you make a decision and have a plan in place in case you feel you are succumbing to temptation.

Take Care and keep your Guard Up

Denise