my wife is smoking pain pills. help

[txm85]

my wife has been smoking pain pills for about a month.  she says it was not everyday.  she says she will stop right away but i don't know how i can trust her anymore.  lost of lieing, sneeking around, and did not even admit it when i confronted her with the tin foil she used to smoke them in the trash.  a day later she admitted to me what she was doing.  she does everything she can to blam me for anything to direct the attention off of her.  i want to help her get clean and stay clean but i don't even know were to start.  can anyone give me some good advice?  what to look for?  how to really help her get better?

[Nicole1105]

My wife (I call her Wifey on here) has been my rock, my inspiration, my reason to go on. One of the reasons I decided enough was enough was because I knew I was hurting her with my addiction. I can't tell you how bad that hurts me, to know I'm hurting her yet I can't stop doing it. People who don't understand will ask how addicts "choose" the pills over their loved ones. We don't choose that. The pills grab us and take us down, everything we love be d@mned. Family, friends, kids, careers...none of it matters to the pills.

I almost feel like there are two sides to me. The real me looks at the pill head me and can't believe how she's stooped so low, can't believe the things she's done just to get pills. I want my old life back! I want to put Wifey first again! I'm sure your wife does too...it's just that you can get caught up so easily.

Please don't give up on her. She needs you now more than ever. Believe me, she will thank you for it. There are no words to describe how grateful I am to Wifey for being there for me no matter what, and being so determined to help me through this.  

[txm85]

i did look it up on google.  but all the symtoms are the same.  the pin sized eye are the dead give away for me.  that was the first thing that i noticed.  but what i didn't know is the depression and anxiety.  my wife has had anxiety problems most of her life.  from what i was reading it looks like this condition will make an addiction to opiates even worse.

[Teetime4u]

Honestly whether its oxycotin, or black tar heroin its all opiates. That is what you are dealing with one way or another.Lookup opiates on google it will give you the signs, and so on. But it is hard to tell when someone is using opiates sometimes. Good luck!

[gnarly_1]

HI.....I always feel for the wifes and husbands that come looking for help with there spouse
right now you wife is in dangerous water...sound like she smoking oxy by the evidence your describing my question here is did you find all the evidence or only some of it 14 tins over 3 weeks means she likes it but it might not have a hold of her bad yet...I can assure you if she keeps doing it it will only go in frequency and amount as time progress ....she needs help now b/4 this gets any worst....but you got to want help b/4 your going to get any and theres not much you can do util she wants help...to her right no is all fun and games it fun getting high but once it grabs a hold of you and you develop a dependency she will need it just to feel normal...she not far from that point...you best bet is sitting her down and having a heart to heart with her tell her you researched it and how dangerous what she is doing is....tell her its very ez to become addicted doing what she is doing...and tell her you want her to get help b/4 its to late...beyond that theres not much you can do till she wants help for you I highly recommend alanon meetings
there designed for people living with a family member who is addicted it will give you support and teach you how to love them without enabling them...I feel for you it not fair you and your child should have to go threw this...keep posting and read the post
as far as signs she is using...pined out pupils falling asleep have to leave the house for long periods of time money coming up missing ....good luck with all this and God bless.....Gnarly      

[txm85]

i have talked to a friend that is police officer.  He says the amount of residue on the foil is almost certainly a pill of some kind.  he said that if it was herion it is way too much and even if there was a couple of poeple smoking it that they could have all od'd.  does this sound correct to you?  the lines are in some cases 4 to almost 8 inches long in two lines coming out of the same point.  some look a dark brown in color and some are black.  hard to tell a differance though.

[Teetime4u]

Your welcome, my daughter is very deep into her addiction, and unfortunately not ready to stop. I am in a place where I know I can't force anything and I just pray that God. Can bring her back to me. He is in control now.Thanks for asking. I agree with you that this site is so helpful, its hard to understand addiction if you have never been there. Everyone here is so helpful!! God Bless them all in their battles won and waging! Good luck with your wife and if you need someone to vent to feel free to contact me. It can be fustrating, God Bless!