my wife smokes pot and drinks

[bigdog2175]

im 34 male i ve abused coke in the past, ive got a big monkey on my back with the coke thing,  my wife drinks and smokes pot  and expects me to stay off the coke she drives me mental when shes high or drunk and im NOT, im triing so hard to stay clean but its not easy when your wife is doing this   what do i do????

[dominosarah]

Does your wife have any plans to quit drinking and smoking weed?

[worried878]

yey...my brother is trying to stop smoking and his wife will not...so he cant wither..it is hard to stay strong when u have substance abuse in ur face all the time and this is only cigs//but a substance and hard to stop for sure
Coke is illegal so many would think drinking is better cos it is legal///drinking causes way more issues than pot but pot is also illegal most of the time..fact is//if u 2 dont work together//someone may end up in trouble//a heart to heart like stilltrying mentioned//can u?

[stilltrying1965]

Im sorry for the situation yous two seem to be in. But somewhere,something, some one is going to have to give or it will just get worse. Have yous tried seriously  talking about this situation that yous are stuck in. When both of you are sober. This sounds realy hard for you but must also be hard for your wife as she also has an addiction best of luck to you,,,,,,,,,James