question from a mother/friend/concerned outsider

[Destiny4]

I have a very good friend of mine that i have slowly tried cutting ties with since she is addicted to the same thing i was and i have to break myself from that until im stronger.  I cant cut all ties cause she has my god son who i love as if he was my own son, he is great.  This is my question and i have tried to talk to her about it but it goes nowhere.  she is breast feeding and hes over 1 now, however she is taking 8-14 vicaprofins a day and i know he gets that in the milk.  she is about to stop breast feeding since he now has teeth. Will my precious god son have w/ds?  i dont know exactly how that works i couldnt breast feed my kids so dont know a whole lot about it.  When i asked her about it she said the doctor said he gets more ibuprofin than vicodin so not to worry about it shes not taking that many. BUT she is lying to the doctor about how many she is taking.  it is kinda weird as she will see my hospital discharge papers and within 24 hours EVERY SINGLE TIME she is in the ER with all the symptoms it tells me to go back if i experiance.  i got diagnosed with chronic ovarian cysts and then 2 weeks later so is she.  I have galstones and 2 weeks later so does she.  she even has both of the same doctors i have now.  i dont know if it is coincidence or just creepy anymore.  My ONLY concern is for her precious son.  Any ideas on what i can do or if it wont even effect him at all i will be so relieved.

thanks in advance for your feedback.

des

[confused456]

I hear you loud and clear. He is very lucky to have you and I will be praying for you both!!

[Destiny4]

thank you very much.  that is my problem he is like one of my sons i cant just walk away from that precious lil man.  it would be like walking away from one of my own.

Des

[confused456]

Oh, I am so sorry about this. I wish I had some advice on what you should do, but in all honesty, I am not sure I could cut all ties because I am too emotionally attached to my God-children. It is a tough spot to be in. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

[Destiny4]

well i think i need to message 1234 LOL sounds like she knows her stuff by the sounds of yall.  please say some prayers that he will be ok and it wont effect him to bad.  I just want to go get him and keep him for a couple weeks so i KNOW he gets thru all this.  it is so SAD that it is happening but im not his mother and i know i have already crossed the line with what i said to her last time.. she went on a you think your better than me cause you dont take them anymore spill and its not like that at all .  i just love my god son.

des

[Destiny4]

i was tempted to call the doc (since we now have the same one) and talk to her (the doc) and see what she says.  I know how HORID w/ds were for me i cant imagine a 14 month old going thru them.  im just at a loss, i cant imagine not seeing him anymore and my hubby is her b/fs best friend.  thank you for your commment that means alot to me.


PS. i always gotta keep my head up, keeps me 2 inches closer to god if its down im 2 inches closer to the ground. :-)
des

[cathy5841]

hi destiny, so sorry you godson is gonna have to go through this.  i really think at that high a dose he will suffer.  please message 1234betterlife.  she is an ob/gyn and peds R.N. and she would be so glad to talk with you and give you some advice.  just tell her i sent ya.lol  i will be praying for the baby.
cathy

[GoingToMakeIt]

I just sent 1234betterlife a note to check on you. She has RN training in OBGYN

[newmanagment]

message 1234betterlife.. she is on page 3 of my friends.. she is an ob/gyn nurse, and reallyyyyy knows here stuff about pills, addiction, and mostly babies with using mothers. please pm her, she will know exactly wuts up. its a shame that the true innocent ones, our children, are usually the ones that pay the highest price for our addictions. pray all goes well for that baby... much love

[lucas88]

I am so sorry you have to go through this.  Expecially rough to break ties with children involved.  I would be happy to research it for you but I am almost positive that, that baby is probably hooked.  Vic's are certainly transmitted through breastmilk, and I am glad you said it but she is definatly lying to her doctor if they are not concerned about her use and breastfeeding.  

I know you love that baby, but it sounds like your on the right path.  You need to cut and run sister.  I could have never got out of the trenches without leaving some people behind.  

Lots of luck to you!  Keep your head up!