Hello,
My husband is an alcoholic. We've been together for 7 years, married 4. He was a recovering alcoholic when we met and started drinking again shortly before our wedding. I asked him to leave once about a year ago, but I was weak and allowed him to come home after only 4 days. He gets really angry and loud when he drinks. He has gone out with our son perfectly fine only to come back and he's all drunk already. It makes me mad that he does that when he's with our son, driving! He's called me names infront of our son, infront of my family...We went out one time, he was sober; then he stopped to get Chinese Food and came out of the restaurant drunk (he drinks hard liquor). I got out of the car, left the door open so he wouldn't drive off before I could get my son, but he drove off anyway. Scary stuff has happened. He's gone to AA meetings, never keeps going. Swears he will change. When he's sober, he's the best husband and father, but because I want us to stay together, I think maybe I should ask him to leave again and not let him come live here again until he's been sober for a few months. He's gone 4 months without drinking before, but then he starts again. Recently he stopped from February until two weeks ago. Now he does it every time he's off work. He drove with our son like that two weeks ago. He apologized and gave a heartfelt speech, then later that night, he drank again and acted dumb, angry, screaming, crying... I don't know what to do.
Should I ask him to leave? I have tried talking to him. He just tells me to stop and that he's sorry, that he knows he has a problem. He doesn't really allow me to express myself. He actually has the nerve to get upset that I "nag" him about it like he says. I don't know how else to help him. I keep forgiving him, talking to him, suggesting things...
How else can I help him without asking him to leave?