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TO ALL THAT HAVE LOST SOMEONE!!!!!
Just starting a new thread 4 all of us who habe lost someone lately or who R going thru family issues!! The OLD THREAD WAS getting 2 long!!!! Hope Ya'll will join!!! XXXOOO Terry
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Losing a loved one mom dad bro or sis or child is a devastating blow in life.I've known many that will/have drink/drug over their grief..understandable but not productive.I know my dad is proud of my recovery...and i feel his guidance on a hourly basis here on earth during these particularly tumultuous times!
Anyone interested in posting in the med help article section? *pokes people come on, you know you wanna*
Still coming to grips with my brother going so suddenly. Sometimes we can prepare ourselves, like with older parents, grand parents but it is really harder when they are taken too soon and without warning. Well, we knew he wasn't well, but was going to drs. and thought he was doing pretty good. The circle of life goes on. I have missed you all. Bandida, that baby is gorgeous, even if he is a Boy! Can you hardly stand not having your hands on him? It is to be another beautiful day here in the northwest and rain and cooler coming tomorrow. So, this may be my last day to run around with no top on the jeep. I am going to get out there and enjoy it. Ibi, you are so intuned with life. What an inspiration for us all,. Thanks to you all for being here to communicate with and bounce things off of. Always good advice and caring words. Hugs, Tonya
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thank u dear.....even tho we know we r never prepared....never....and all e can take comfort in is that their pain is over and they ran one helluva race here on earth!
Hi gang. Where are all of you? A little foggy here this morning. Beautiful leaves starting and i just counted 8 deer in my front yard. The little buggers are hungry.
One 5 pt. buck thought he should rub his antlers on one of my aspen trees. I opened the door and told him No. He walked a little ways and turned and just stared at me. haha
I watch them come through here every morning and every evening. It is deer season and I hope the bucks stay close and out of the wild. These are white tail and not big enough for hunting, in my opinion.
Hope you all are having a great weekend. I am hitting the shower now and getting ready to head to church. Ibi, my Mom at times has a panicky sound to her voice.
Also has gotten pretty demanding, which she has never been, with those who are back there and around her. I think she might be going into the next phase of this alzheimers.
How is your Momma doing? I will check back on here this pm. TJ
One 5 pt. buck thought he should rub his antlers on one of my aspen trees. I opened the door and told him No. He walked a little ways and turned and just stared at me. haha
I watch them come through here every morning and every evening. It is deer season and I hope the bucks stay close and out of the wild. These are white tail and not big enough for hunting, in my opinion.
Hope you all are having a great weekend. I am hitting the shower now and getting ready to head to church. Ibi, my Mom at times has a panicky sound to her voice.
Also has gotten pretty demanding, which she has never been, with those who are back there and around her. I think she might be going into the next phase of this alzheimers.
How is your Momma doing? I will check back on here this pm. TJ
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we got the fall leaves/colors beginning here ..last nite when i was coming back from seeing my mom i saw a small doe nibbling grass on the side of the highway..i said to myself u stay over there and don't meander across this highway!my mom is on top of her game for the most part......she watches the news and is very informed on all the chaos going on....dementia rears its head with her short term but that long term is so good!she said she is glad where she is....safe from this world......and we r so glad she's IN there doing well and safe!and she does get panicky at times and it subsides!and returns and subsides...such is the ebb and flow of dementia!
Hi Gang. How is everyone? I had a rough day at AA yesterday. Lots of tears and my sponsor asked me to speak, which i so dread. But, it was for the best to share with all the women, about my falling back and now i am back and fearful but committed. My sponsor told me yesterday, she wasn't going to meet with me anymore if i wasn't as committed to doing the steps as I should be. I told her i was afraid she was going to tell me she was done with me. She said, oh no I am not done with you but my time is important and i am serious about this. I want you to live and not die. I know she is right and tough love is what it is. A couple of other women shared and there was lots of tears. I have got to learn to pick up the phone and call my sponsor and the other women who have told me, CALL someone. One woman told me her sponsor would tell her years ago when she would call her, Don't drink today. You can drink tomorrow. So, that would buy one day.
So, as the saying goes>> One day at a time. Thanks for your support girls. Hugs, TJ
So, as the saying goes>> One day at a time. Thanks for your support girls. Hugs, TJ
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ur sponsor is so right..it is that damn alcoholic false pride that will stop u from picking up the phone and picking up that drink!when i used to want to drink..i would go to a meeting and say well i'll think about drinking 2 morrow morning...and in the morning i was so glad i had gone 2 that meeting and drinking was a sillyass option!this coming sunday will be a bittersweet one for me...and i'm not thinking about it....meeting my 2 bros and 1 sis at my mom and dads place.....my brother has to rent it soon and we will take things we gave them etc.i don't look 4ward to this but its one of those damn have 2's!plus i will take the cremated remains of my beloved Colonel Mustard who is in a beautiful black ceramic box and bury him next to his old galpal..i have a pet cemetery on a hill that has 5 cats and 32greyhounds there....time for me to part with him!sigh!
You have a platefull for this weekend. None of it easy. 32 greyhounds, whoa! You have rescued alot of them. That speaks volumns of who you are.
Yep that old phone one of the aa gals said it weighs about 300 lbs at times.
Speaking of which, i need to call my gal tomorrow. Hang in there, we're on a roller
coaster ride it seems with one thing and then ten and our Moms. thanks for checking in.
What has become of all our gang?
Yep that old phone one of the aa gals said it weighs about 300 lbs at times.
Speaking of which, i need to call my gal tomorrow. Hang in there, we're on a roller
coaster ride it seems with one thing and then ten and our Moms. thanks for checking in.
What has become of all our gang?
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what a typpo there..i meant 3 greyhounds...Colonel will be #3!dunno where all those other girls r!
okay, 3 sounds good to me. 32 sounded pretty mindboggleing! ha ha But, i know you love your buddy's and they you.
Yes roller coaster ride indeed. It's the looped ti loops that get me. I just got to hang on tight and not lose sight of the end. Will be picking up the phone and making a couple more calls tomorrow. At present i am okay. My Mom sounds better the last couple of days. Doing her physical therapy, which it BIG! I never thought she would. She hasn't been complaing too much at all and hasn't mentioned her back hurting her, as she usualy has been doing. How is you Mom, Ibi? I hope when the time comes we can find a good place there for Mom to go. I will be looking into it more in Dec. when i am back there. Come on back Gang and say Hi and how it's going. Tonya
Yes roller coaster ride indeed. It's the looped ti loops that get me. I just got to hang on tight and not lose sight of the end. Will be picking up the phone and making a couple more calls tomorrow. At present i am okay. My Mom sounds better the last couple of days. Doing her physical therapy, which it BIG! I never thought she would. She hasn't been complaing too much at all and hasn't mentioned her back hurting her, as she usualy has been doing. How is you Mom, Ibi? I hope when the time comes we can find a good place there for Mom to go. I will be looking into it more in Dec. when i am back there. Come on back Gang and say Hi and how it's going. Tonya
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My mom is doing so well!thank u 4 asking!Glad urs in on a upswing as well!it is 6:15am here...gonna feed critters and make a big salad to take with me to feed sibs at potluck as we gather at my mom and dads today.it is to be a b-utiful day....and i so loved going there on days like this.A very dear friend of mine age 51 died....allegedly in bed of natural causes......I wonder.....on the outside teacher of the year to special ed kids but inside lotsa turmoil but she weathered her storms bravely.One helluva gal.....her calling hours r tonite...don't know if my head will be in good place to attend..but i've been talking to her in my heart and wishing her peace as i know she has it now.Yes lets re-name Life......LoopDiDooLife!
got a piece of family crisis going on of my own!!!!! Well not really I guess Tom's Ex does not count!!! She is off her MEDS and freakin out!!!!! We R both concerned for her!!!! Family wants to baker act her....From the msgs. I have heard and ppl that are asaociated w/her I can understand!!!! Who wants 2 deal with a WACKO! Still I have a big heart and will help in any way I can!!!!
Well, I AM one of those WACKOs so show some tenderness - will ya'? I am HIGHLY medicated and I realize what a pain in the *** I can be when not on my meds but each and every one of the Creators "projects" deserves love and tenderness. And lest we forget what total pains in the ***** we WERE when we were drinking! Getting arrested, causeing scenes, starting fights, blubbering, screaming, ad nausem....the list goes on and on....
DAILY REFLECTION: When we speak or act hastily or rashly, the ability to be fair minded and tolerant evaporates on the spot. Twelve and Twelve p. 91
As for losing someone...it's hard. That goes for physically or emotionally. And it's harder still when its BOTH. The Tunnel and The Light By Elizabeth Kubler Ross. Excellent Book upon which to read and ponder the acceptance and realization of death and finishing of unfinished business. A great comfort. A Grief Observed by C.S. Lewis another wonderful theraputic volume of literary work that shows that losing is gaining if we seek our Higher Power.
It's good to be back on the board. Have missed you all. Getting ready to make a cross country trip and move from Bama to Washington State. YIKES! 10 days till packers come and 19 days till I'm there. STRESS! Am trying to double up on meetings and stay connected yet my brain wants to isolate - in fact - need to sign off and get my butt to the 10am!
Love and Light
Tink
DAILY REFLECTION: When we speak or act hastily or rashly, the ability to be fair minded and tolerant evaporates on the spot. Twelve and Twelve p. 91
As for losing someone...it's hard. That goes for physically or emotionally. And it's harder still when its BOTH. The Tunnel and The Light By Elizabeth Kubler Ross. Excellent Book upon which to read and ponder the acceptance and realization of death and finishing of unfinished business. A great comfort. A Grief Observed by C.S. Lewis another wonderful theraputic volume of literary work that shows that losing is gaining if we seek our Higher Power.
It's good to be back on the board. Have missed you all. Getting ready to make a cross country trip and move from Bama to Washington State. YIKES! 10 days till packers come and 19 days till I'm there. STRESS! Am trying to double up on meetings and stay connected yet my brain wants to isolate - in fact - need to sign off and get my butt to the 10am!
Love and Light
Tink
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thank u for the book titles....i have read quite a few of Kubler-Rosses.Books tell us what we need to accept in our heads that our hearts naturally battle and in time hearts come 2 grips with.It just stunk to have this big dumpster and have to be throwing out things my folks had for years...i know its necessary and just things...but it was their things!And i took some precious things...one I'm wearing now..my dads high school class ring from 1937 that the jeweler will need to clean more.It was a beautiful day weather wise...i felt my dads spirit saw him waving at me in the door....and laid to rest my Colonel Mustard with his other pals.It is a revelation to reflect upon all the time we spend on earth and in the end our things....which are just things go to some dump with other things.
Ibi, isn't it wonderful to know our memories go on and on but things are just that?
I can only imagine how hard yesterday was for you and am so glad you felt your
Dad's spirit through it all. You and your sibblings did what you had to do. How special
that you have your Dad's class ring. Something to always have close. T
I can only imagine how hard yesterday was for you and am so glad you felt your
Dad's spirit through it all. You and your sibblings did what you had to do. How special
that you have your Dad's class ring. Something to always have close. T
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i have his old aluminum percolater coffee pot,blankets pillows that smell of them,green enamel sieve of my moms,depression era green glass dessert plates and most of all all of his diplomas from med school in the 40's!They will rest on my porch in his old army trunk!Can u believe my bro who is a doctor didn't want them?Said he had no use for them?what about the memories????his acheivements?????ppl baffle me and i've been told many grieve different....i have hilarious cards i made for them in the third grade and up.....I saw my dad wave at me from the door like he always did when i left there for a sunday visit...if i have to go back i will.....my 2nd oldest brother and sister have been doing the bulk of it.....i know it tears them up 2.My 2nd oldest brother was the most supportive when i went thru inpatient......the rest of the family was embarassed and stunned that i came forth with my announcment of addiction and plan for treatment....i told him how much i loved/appreciated his support those years ago.....so hard to believe its going on 25!its a damn good thing all!:)
just a quick note to let you know I am watching everyones coming and goings!!!! Luv ya all!!! I am a bit concerned for someone that sent me a PM! Don't really want to post the address but I think I gave her the right advice..Can U PM me back??? talkatacha later!!!! Today is my BABY'S 20th B'day...ohhhhhsuddenly I feel old! Not really.....I have a young mind still and will keep on going!!!! Terry
It is always hard to become an orphan. Our prayers and love are with you though. Take those along the road with you.
Tink
Tink
Well, gang i am in a big mess here. I have screwed up big time. Nope not booze, but have been taking hydrocodone for a few weeks now, like a NUT THAT I AM. So, it is cold turkey now and am i ever scared. I pray it won't be too bad and it makes me very anxious to imagine it. I would never, ever go on the suboxone again, i have never come off of anything as bad as that was. Plus, i haven't been taking these that long, but have been taking about 8 500mg a day. I am so crazy. I think I will end up in a rehab place, but cannot do it at this time. I can't disappear for a month with my Mom in the shape she is in. I can do this cold turkey. Heck i did it a couple of times and didn't even know what i was going through. I honestly thought i had the flu. Please send prayers my way for God's mercy. Thank you all for any support you can give me. I am telling my therapist all tomorrow.
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why were u taking those girl?what did u tell the doc to get them?ok the toothpaste is outta the tube....u need to tell ur doctor the truth..did the one who gave them to u know of ur alcoholism?U CAN get off these go thru withdrawal and start recovery all over again..one hour atta time...one day atta time.....ok now..u can do it....lets get goin!:)
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