Hello all,
I posted in another forum asking for help for what I believe to be anxiety, but I have yet to have any responses - probably because I wrote too much, ha. I'll try my best to keep it short and sweet but knowing me, I won't. :p
Three weeks ago, my mother unexpectedly passed away from complications with breast cancer. I was present in the hospital when she died - never in my life have I remembered a night so vividly. Immediately after, I was surrounded by my family and boyfriend, leaving me to feel relief that she was no longer in pain (she had tumors in her hips and spine). Now, however, since they have all left I have been having feelings of dread.
When I came home from college to take care of my mother, who at that point had just been diagnosed, I had began to have heart palpitations and random moments where my heart would race and I would feel out of breath. I linked this to allergies because things in my home town were in bloom whereas everything in my college town had barely begun to bud. I also noticed that when I ate instant mashed potatoes my heart would start to race, leading me to believe I was allergic to a preservative so, needless to say, I stopped eating them and felt better.
The heart palpitations continued on and off and now I'm starting to notice twitching in my body, namely my legs. Twitching has never, ever bothered me as I've had minute twitches all my life. Now, these symptoms have left me thinking the worst about my health. Immediately I think, "MS", "ALS" or some sort of heart disease and so on which is taking a completely huge leap to the most severe reasons for my symptoms. I should also mention that these symptoms stopped when my family and boyfriend were surrounding me, but started up again now that I'm alone in the house for most of the day.
All my life I've had moments where I question my health and I do think of the worst possible thing - but I've always been able to talk myself out of those thoughts. Now, they just won't go away.
My mother passing away has made me think "anything can happen to anyone". I am constantly worried about everyone I care about. My boyfriend lives an hour from me and not being physically with him makes me worry. I had a dream about him being in the same situation of my mother and it scared me. I almost called him at 3am to make sure he was safe. Naturally, I worry about my family also. I tried calling my grandfather the other day and when he didn't answer, I immediately put the worst scenario in my head - I felt ridiculous when I walked there only to find him outside watering plants.
The biggest thing of all that is bothering my like no tomorrow is my gloomy outlook on life. That night at the hospital with my mother I was convinced that she would be fine, she would spend the night and she could come home the next day. I was excited that for once she'd be sleeping in a bed and in an environment that could take care of her better than we could at home. But then she passed and everything I was thinking about just stopped. It was surreal. I now am convinced that if I think of anything in the future, it will not happen the way I intended it because of some sort of catastrophe. I constantly would think about my life after college, but now I'm absolutely petrified that something will happen to me. It's horrible. This is all a horrible loop of "what if I have this" or "what if this happens to him/her/me" because "it can happen now because my mother is gone". Naturally, you play out scenarios in your head as to what future things will be like and if they don't happen that way it's normal because who can actually "predict" the future so perfectly? I can't seem to function that way and it's impeding on my life.
As I am writing this, my leg muscles have a tingly feeling. I just went out with my friend and noticed nothing of the sorts - my legs and body were fine. The minute I got home and started thinking about the twitching, it started again. I haven't had any palpitations today and I started my birth control after I stopped using it for a month (another long story). I am a 19 year old female (guess you could have figured that) who has never had a drink, smoked a cigarette or used any sort of drug. The sickest I've ever been in my life was my junior and senior years of high school where I had mono which led to constant tonsillitis and then a tonsil and adnoidectomy last August. After that, I have been in great health - only one cold got in my way last year.
Any response to anything I have written would be very helpful - reassurance, similar stories and so on. I'm going to talk to my dad about seeing someone about the anxiety - I wish to have my mind back the way it was.
Thanks!