fear of dying

[crazycow]

Hello everyone,

I just thought I would ask you all whether you suffer with th same fears as me.

Ever since I was a young girl I have feard death, the prospect of my whole body switching off and facing eternal nothingness fills me with dread. I know people keep telling me that when your dead you wont know it, it will be like sleeping forever, but I just cant stop thinking about it, when will it happen and whats it going to feel like? Does anyone else suffer with this awfull fear?

I suffer with panic attacks and anxiety which bring on all sorts of physical symptoms, I will list some that I am struggling with at the moment -
neck/shoulder pain
flashing in my eyesight
headaches (almost every day)
scalp pain
back pain
sinus problems
pain in the jaw and around the ears
strange head sensations
some vertigo
short episodes where I feel like I cant swallow......................... the list is quite long, sorry :)

So all these symptoms are pretty scary, ive looked them up on the net (i know, big mistake) and it comes up with all kinds of horrible stuff, strokes, TIA's, anuerysm's........ which terrify me, its all I think about and im only 22! The doctor says he thinks im ok, I had a CT scan a year ago which came back normal, guess im just paranoid.

Please let me know if enyone else feels the same, I would really like to hear from you, thanks xx

[Laurallei]

Hello Brian,

You are so right.  You cannot do this alone.  It is o.k. to cry.  Believe me I have spent the last few months in tears many times.  If you are truly searching for God.  Open your heart a simply cry out to him. Trust me, if you call he will hear you.  I found closeness through journaling.  

You can also visit your local book store preferably a Christian one.  Family Christian book store has wonderful books for all age groups and well and gender.  I started with a book from Joyce Meyers that dealt with anxiety, fear, and a few other topics. I then moved on to many other wonderful authors and of course read your bible.

Just some suggstions,

If you need and ear don't hesitate to rach out.

Be Well,
Laura

[Laurallei]

Hey Flob,  

"so now that you have a stronger belief in God, how has that changed the way you view death?"

As a part of this life we are living. My body will eventually die and my soul will go to Heaven.  My only hope is that I fullfill Gods will for my life before my time comes.  I don't want to look back and say "what the heck was I doing all this time" :)

The greatest thing I have learned is that fear does not come from God, and when we are fearful of something we need to reconnect to our higher power. And for me that is God.  When I am scared I ask God to help me with my fears and to focus on his will for my life.  I will always battle fears like everyone else, but it is how I choose to deal with them that matters most.

With regards,
Laura

[Brian0357]

I feel you on alot of those symptoms. I am a 20 year old male and I am going through a hard time right now too. I get random spells where I just want to cry I think about death sometimes and it does scare me but I have come to realie that worrying doesnt fix anything. I hate when people tell me that but it is true. I have come to realize that we cant do this alone and I am trying to bring myself closer to God. That is just me personally some people dont have this same belief and that is ok

[flob]

yeah...religion is really a touchy subject for some people. i think it's good you shared your experience though. it actually helped me feel better to read it. i wish my faith were stronger than it is.

you know, i think something can be said by your post...and that is that we have to all come to terms with death in some way. for a lot of people, it's via a deity...and for some it's through other means. some believe that if there isn't a God, then there is nothing beyond this world. i say that God or no god, science itself has opened up endless possibilities to what may come after we die. they say there are endless parallel universe's...so the way i see it, that makes endless possibility for what happens when we die. anyway...i guess accepting death for me is just easier when i accept that it's simply part of the natural cycle.

so now that you have a stronger belief in God, how has that changed the way you view death?

[LoganLehman]

Yes it does make sense, but its like weird, if you would like to look at the rest of my symptoms i just posted a question for everyone

[morbidlyeuphoric]

I don't know if it CAUSES it, but I know when I have it, my hands and feet are really cold, even at room temp, and I shake a lot but the shaking feels like it's coming from inside of me. It doesn't feel like I'm shaking because I'm cold, does that make sense?