Question about birth control pills

[lovelyangel22]

Hey I have a question on bc pills but don't no if u could help me could u plz help me if u can?

[evewisewoman]

You're very welcome :)  Have you been to see your regular family doctor yet?  Are you pregnant ?  You are very young and your fiancee is no doubt
young too. You mention schooling. Are you going to college right now ?
Is your fiancee going to college ? Does one of you have a job?
You say you're not an abortion fan. Neither am I. But there are exceptions.
As I mentioned in my previous comments, I've never been pregnant so
its hard to imagine what this must feel like. What I do know though is
a child is a precious blessing. A child is a tremendous responsibility.
A child needs a lot of things and this costs money. If this is not the right
time to bring a child into your world, then its not the right time. You said
your fiancee said " it was fine with whatever choice I ( you) make.
But it's not just your choice is it and it should be a mutual decision.
You need to think of what's best for you. You need to go to school so
that you can get the education you need so you can get a good job
so you can afford to live in an apartment in a safe neighborhood with
your partner. There are a lot of decisions to be made by both of you.  I will leave you with some words that helped me once." God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference."  All the best. Eve

[LostNWorried22]

Thanks Eve. We've been discussing it. Neither of us are abortion fans but right now we can't even afford and apartment together because of schooling an such and both of our parents have made it clear we'd be out if we were. I'm stressed beyond belief and he even said it was fine with whatever choice I make but I can't make him see its his choice too.

[evewisewoman]

Hi there,

I just read your comments, LostNWorried22. My advice is to make an
appointment with your family doctor and have your doctor give you a
pregnancy test. I think a pregancy test given by your doctor is more
reliable than a home pregnancy test and cheaper too. If you are pregnant,
you need to know as soon as possible. There are decisions to be made.
Are you currently taking birth control pills? Your doctor won't think any
less of you because you're not married. You say now is not a god time
to be pregnant. I know you're only 18, but remember you are engaged.
My first husband wanted to have a child. I didn't want to have a child with him. Our marriage was in it's fourth year and he he having a child with him would make our marriage stronger. I knew differently. We ended up divorcing a year later. The fact he wanted a child was one of the reasons but there were other irreconsilable differences.. I remarried many
years later and my current husband has his own children from his first
marriage. By the time I met my second husband, I was too old to even
consider having a child. I missed my chance to have a child. There is no opportune  time to have a child. A child is a blessing. You say you're scared to find out. It's better to know than not know. Remember even if
you are pregnant, you're engaged. Together the two of you could raise a baby together if that's what you want. You could make an appointment with your family doctor. You don't necessarily have to tell your fiancee about
the appointment. Have the pregnancy test and find out for sure.
You could ask your fiancee an if question, if I were to become pregnant right now with your child, how would you feel about it ? Then let him tell you
his feelings. It might be better than, I'm pregnant with your child. How do
you feel about this ? I'm just giving you two scenarios. I'm an honest woman, but there are times when you have to protect yourself and your
feelings.  If you are pregnant, your fiancee will probably be thrilled about
this news. Find out though through a blood test from your doctor to be
sure.  I wish you well.  Eve :)

[LostNWorried22]

hi.. im taking birth control and remember losing my period but i wasnt sexually active then. now i am and i am nervous i may be pregnant.. my fiancee hasnt finished inside me but a possibility of precum.. now is not a good time to be pregnant, im too scared to take the test. i have the cramps and my boobs are sore to the touch.. any advice?

[evewisewoman]

Hello again,

We're all here to help each other lovelyangel22. I was on birth control pills
for a number of years. I know something about them. Don't be shy
about asking questions. That's how you find out about things. Eve :)

[evewisewoman]

Hi lovelyangel22,

What is your question about birth control pills ? I can't offer you any
advice or offer you any answers if I don't know your question.
I'm guessing you forgot to include it. Take care, Evewisewoman (Eve)

[kandjmom]

what is your question?