think my grandson is being abused, please someone help

[grammabamma]

What do I do? My 3 year old grandson visits for 3 days and nights 2 times a month, and if I mention his mother or going home he goes into a panic , says he will stay here and Mommy can go away. When I drive him home, as soon as he sees where we are going he flips out, sobbing and begging me not to take him to Mommy. When he can actually see her, he sobs quietly and appears to be in a trance. This has happened at least a dozen times and is progressively getting worst, if I report it and thy cant prove anything, she will never let me see him again, I no longer sleep at night, Someone PLEASE HELP

[Emily_MHManager]

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[concerned139]

Be careful of therapist. As I stated previously, child said Mother's boyfriend was jumping on his bottom and was talking about boyfriend's toy. I asked him to draw b\f toy and he drew a penis. This was just one of the things child said and did. Told Child's Mother what Child was saying and doing. Child's Mother took child to therapist. After she saw the child, I text the Child's Mother and asked if she had made her assessement, was told she had and said nothing was going on. I wanted to talk to therapist to show her picture Child had drawn and all the other things Child had said and done. As I said she already had her mind made up and hardly looked or listened to what I had to say. She said, "And you believe (child's name)? I said, "Of course I do."  She said, "Why would you?" Now Mother and therapist say I'm nuts for thinking anything is going on and now I don't get to keep him anymore.

[WonderMom777]

P.s. check this out..
www.kidsmatterinc.org/ChildAbuse

[WonderMom777]

Hello.
     First, I would just like to say I’m sorry that you are going though this. Just an FYI you do have grandparent rights legally that you could file for. In addition, if you really want to get to the bottom of this, I would suggest a safe house interview. This is done by a trained child behaviorist. They work with the kids in a play setting record the interview while a detective watches. If you make a official police report and if they tell baloney about  more evidence, New Mexico has prime examples what happens to a system that fails to help, I would threaten to go to the News reporters if they refuse to help.
      Now I understand that this could be a simple as he doesn’t want to go home, but if in your heart you fear that its more, then you must do more to help all those babies!!! As for your son, consumed about an affair think it’s time to get his priorities straight (KIDS first THEM second), and mamma you’re just the mom for the job.
      Please if you feel abuse is the case PLEASE FIGHT the Fight for them, this world has to many lost souls innocents turned to hate and violence that could have been avoided had someone took a stand for them. Do what you think is right. Learn your rights legally and fight for their innocence. If mom and dad are being to consumed in their own issues, what about their babies. Everyone has relationship problems no one is perfect, but has a parent allowing that to take priority over the kids is a cry for HELP!!!
You will do the right thing, you’ll see god will open the doors, you just have to walk though them. :)

[gr8dragon]

do it in a way she will not notice. you know the pop can or writing pen camera with the kid.  Do you ever go inside the house because this is a better get something in.  Do the boys sleep in the same room. if so, the old video camera in the book trick should work and all you have to do is have big boy bring it back to you whenever he comes so you can view the video on the sd card.

[concerned139]

Going through same thing. Child said mom's boyfriend jumping on his bottom and many things point to abuse. Told child's mom. She took child to therapist.  Therapist said I am nuts and chilld not being abused. Therapist made her assessment before talking to both parties involved. I could tell she had her mind made up   and did not listen to what I was saying. Everyone say CPS also puts children in danger. What in the hell are you supposed to do? Boyfriend has everyone fooled ESPECIALLY child's mother and therapist.