I am emotionally, physically and spiritually drained.

[nila_jeffcoat]

Help me!!!!  I am at a lost.  My beautiful, intelligent 4 year old son has just beat me down.  I do not know what to do.  He refuses to go to his 4k class.  He kicks me and screams at me.  He has bitten his older brother (broke skin and bruised him).  I have tried everything from spanking, time outs, taking things away, talking to him, loving him, etc.  My husband works all the time and tries to find reasons to be busy.  I have no help.  I am alone.  I pray everyday for him.  I love him so much.  My heart throbs every time he behaves in this manor.  I cry everyday.  I do not know what I am doing wrong.  I praise him just as much as his brother.  I spend more time with him than his older brother, thinking it may be he felt ignored, unloved.  He has thrown a tantrum so bad that he hit a teacher with his bookbag!  He has NEVER acted out like that toward someone else besides his brother or me.  What am I to do?  I am seeking a consult with his pediatrician next week.  I feel like I cannot wait that long.  HELP!  I never knew someone you loved so much could hurt like this.  My heart is being ripped out.

[nila_jeffcoat]

Thank you both for replying.  I am still trying to pick up the pieces from this morning.  To answer your questions:  my oldest son is very good to him.  He is not always, but mostly my youngest is the one who initiates the fighting.  My husband is the only one working right now.  His job requires a lot of time and energy.  He does try to be here, but he is either working or helping some one in need.  I am seeking help.  I am going to make his doctor listen to me and help me.  I know he (my youngest) is better than this.  He is really sweet and lovable at times.

[imanaddict]

My heart goes out to you! I can certainly understand how you feel, as my kids have broken me MANY times and have cried and cried and cried. I honestly can't offer any advice other than seeking professional help. It sounds like you have tried absolutely everything you can think of and the only thing left to do is talk to a Doctor.

I wish you all the best and I pray things turn around for you and your family...

P.S. One more thing...does your husband have an active role in his life? Can he give you a break and spend some quality time with the boys? Maybe your son is seeking attention from his daddy and unfortunately you are the one suffering the consequences. That's about the only thing I can think of....

[margypops]

This child needs some help, he sounds very upset by something in his life and is acting out, does he get on with his older brother how does the brother behave towards him, what happens prior to the incidents ,biting, you mention. This sounds like something to be handled by a professional, it would be better to find out why rather than meeting out all these punishments especially as they are not working. Seek Help.