Is my kid telling a story or did he really see something?

[143DAV]

My 6 year old & I were talking about the bible yesterday. And I gave him examples of sin-basicly doing something wrong and one of the examples I gave him was that mommy & daddy are married, if he saw his daddy with someone else or mommy with some else that is a sin. So innocently He said “So I saw daddy with your friend lying in your bed together is that’s a sin?” I was shocked but I calmly responded asking my son what he meant, when was this, where were they, was the door open and were their clothes on?  He said this was a long time ago when I was gone (I’m in the military & I was gone away for training during that time, my girlfriends son is the same age as my son, she is married and told me about the times she just dropped off her son at my house for a play date& left, while I was away). My son could describe to me how they were lying next to each other, the door was open and daddy said he was popping her zits.
My husband was out renting a movie & came home I asked him Exactly what had happen when my friend came over. I said it calmly trying not to make accusations. But he was angry and said I told you already.-“She came over drop off her kid & left we stood out side maybe talked for a minute & that was it.”  
So then I left the house and went to my girlfriends and asked her what had happen. She told me the same thing. I just don’t understand who to believe. I know my kid can tell some really tall tales. But just out of the blue like this? And this isn’t the first time he’s told me he saw daddy with someone? He told me he saw his dad at work hugging some girl. My husband is not a hugger. And my husband really got on to him about it telling such a tale.  But who do I believe? Is my kid telling a story or did he really see something?

[143DAV]

I appreciate your comment and your right it doesn’t seem believable. And he’s just making things up.
As for talking to a 6 year old about marital infidelity- It sounds insane but kids are exposed to so much these days and a lot smarter than people think they are. Have you seen Cartoon network, nickelodeon or Disney? Our children are exposed to dating so early! Watch “High school musical”, “Hanna Montana”, “Justice League” “Fairy Odd Parents!” Just a name a few! All shows that have boyfriend and girlfriend scenarios or the “Fairy Odd parents” They’re a married fairy couple that actually showed Marital Infidelity! And even if you don’t allow your children to watch such shows they hear it at school or see it at day care! Not only that but look at our divorce rate it keeps climbing.  
So we’ve talk to our son early about monogamy! We’ve talked to our child about marital infidelity because it all starts with Dating! Before you get married you date right? Well as parents we are just trying to guide him in what we believe is the right way and not what he see on tv or hears from his friends!
And when we talk to him it’s nothing inappropriate it’s hugging, kissing, holding hands! Things our children see’s on tv already! Some couple think that’s ok but we don’t. When you are married there is no one else and we teach our son that.
I guess it also has to do with what my own parents have taught me too. I remember my mom telling me at a very young age that I should never see my father dancing with another woman or her even dancing with another man but line dancing was ok. And when I get married I remain faithful to my spouse. My parents have been married for 33 years. So they must have done something right.

[afekety]

I agree with RockRose.  I immediately wondered why you'd have that conversation with your 6 year old.  or why you'd put the idea of infidelity into his head.  

Whether or not kids say crazy things, I think you already know the answer to your question.  And that this has nothing to do with your 6 year old.

And if I may, I would suggest leaving adult topics for adults, and 6 year old topics for 6 year olds.  

[RockRose]

I just had another thought.  When I discuss sin with my children,  I discuss it on their terms - stealing,  lying,  purposely hurting their friends,  etc.  

It's kind of unusual that you brought up marital infidelity to a 6 year old,  especially since he had already apparently made up some story about daddy and another woman.  I don't think I've ever discussed - ever - the thought that my husband might be with someone else (in the context of sin or any other context)  with any of my three sons.  

Is this something that's on your mind a lot and in your conversations frequently - kind of a focus that he would have picked up on?

[RockRose]

Sometimes you just have to pick the story apart to think about how believable it is.  

Is he saying your husband was doing inappropriate things in the bedroom while he was there,  and your friend's son was also there,  in the middle of the day with the door open?

That doesn't sound believable.  Or that he would carry on inappropriately at work while your son was there.  Just doesn't sound right at all,  or believable.

If he said he was at a sleepover but got sick so the mom brought him home - and daddy was in bed with a woman,  that's believable.   Or he came home on an early release day and a woman was in the bed - sounds plausible.

I just can't picture him doing anything in appropriate with your married friend while both children are right there.  It seems for some reason your son is making this stuff up.