Potty Training - regression

[vickyflitney]

My son is 3 years and 3 months old, he has been using the potty since November 2010 and we had little or no accidents, but just recently he has stopped doing a poo on the potty and just does it in his pants.  can you help

[emmsalos]

oh ghosh...
don't do it to yourselves..
but hey i was the same.

young children on them kind of games...not advised but hey i get it..you are disabled right and it's hard enough for the most able parent to get the kids occupied for any lenght of time...

it doesn't surprise me though that he pees himself while doing the games...my son is 7 and he has on recent occassion not made it to the toilet because he is just to into it ! right.  

so then your boy did it in his pants...discovered ok this is no big deal..i didn't really get a awful lot of fuss by doing this, so hey i can do it again....no big deal.  i might do it now or why bother going to the toilet ill do it right here.  it's no different...i did it last time and it was fine.  no one will know ...or for at least for a while.  im watching this great film...or im doing this.  but hey im a boy and i ca'nt quite hold as much pee as my sister...maybe my bladder has't fully developed.   who cares...this is much more interesting. my cars or blocks or what ever im into.  

there is no reason...the fact of the matter is...he can because he chooses to.  and you or anyone else can't stop him.  its his body and he controles it...and that's just the point.  what a great way of expressing your new found desission making thingy...by pissing your pants.  

think of it like this..yes it's frustrating...yes its soo bloody incoveiniant...put him back in pullups and start all over again from scratch...reward him for going tot he toilet with a sticker chart.  don't blame yourselves.  hard i know...but these days we don't give the kids enough credit for their own desision making abiltiy.  he chooses to do it.  you give him attention for doing it...bad attention as it might be.  it might go on a while.  so start from scratch.  no one else has to know.  just don't blow your top at him.  many kids regress and interestingly enough it seems to be the boys more.  the little rule breakers they are.  

as long as its not a water infection or the like.  it will end one day.  how many adults do you still see p*ssing their pants. you could make it less stressful...if you wanted.  by being patient (unlike me)  and wait it out..save yourself the stress of the wet stuff.  get back to basics.  he aint never going back anytime soon otherwise.  only my opinion.

[sparky001]

We have 4-1/2 year old twins gir/boy. I am a disabled stay at home dad and my wife works. Our daughter was potty trained at 3-1/2 and never an accident. ( up to this point ) our son was potty trained just after turning 4. They are both extremely technlogically smart ( not bragging ) they both play on a ps2, ( which got boaring fast, added an xbox 360, and they both can use our iPhone 4s as good as we do!) but that's when our son started peeing himself. He would get wraped up in a game and not want to stop playing to go potty, we made sure he understood that its only a game and if you had to go potty to pause the game, go potty and unpasuse the game. It worked for a very short time. Then we started not letting him play with the game consols if he had an accident while playing. We have no problem with our daughter and BTW she tells her brother and reminds him to go potty and why he needs to! Wow what love for each other! Anyway now he is peeing himself while watching tv, sometimes twice in less than an hour and after going potty in between. Their pediatrician says it's laziness. We've stopped him from playing on the game consols, the game phones (iPhones) and the computers. It don't bother him and he still pees himself. Sometimes he'll go days without doing it then wham it starts again! Everybody argues and if you say you never do your liars. We take it to our room and never let our kids hear us, we keep it down and talk not yell and scream because that can affect a childs behavior.We have a very stable, loving, careing relationship and household. We've taking away favorite toys-don't work. he can be outside playing or inside it don't matter he still does it. We have never spanked or yelled at him for it, some say we should, some say you shouldn't. Our reason: how can you use corperal punishment when you don't know for sure? It's random and not consistent and I refuse to believe it's all laziness. Maybe sometime I could buy but not all the time. We will talk to their Peditricion again bought this. It's frustrating and at the same time heartfelt. We to are at loss for reasons or what to do.

[vickyflitney]

thanks for putting  my mind at rest I thought there was something relly wrong with him

[tinkerbell1124]

My son did the same thing around that age too. He went from doing great to right back where we started( well some what) I was told to just let it be for a while and NOT to pressure him. Then slowly start back up again. Which it what I did, and I'd say about 2 months after I started it with him again he was perfect.