my sons behaviour

[missnaughty568]

im really concerened about my 3 year old he used to be so good and well mannered now he dont listen to anything i say and keeps telling me to shut up and has even started scratching me and its getting worse by the day ive tried so many different ways of discipling him but nothing works i really need help

[MrsPincince]

Ditto what margypos said:)

[margypops]

It is good you say you are going to see that he feels happier.Is it possible to speak to your husband tell him how his son misses him and work out a plan where he is home more, it may also be a good idea to keep your brother away from him, there is no doubt that this kind of behavior can be  learned  What about some help from family so you have time for your self ?  Your son is possibly upset and feeling some jealousy about the baby, it would be a good idea for him to have one to one time with you so he still knows he is also special ..Good luck I know it can be tough to be alone looking after small children.,.they grow very fast then you want these times back ...

[missnaughty568]

thank you for your comments i have a seven month old son and his dad started workin over a year ago they are the only changes i have a 4 year old brother who is very violent and can have a bad temper but i assumed cause he wasnt around him that offen he wouldnt pick it up i do struggle alot with two kids on my own as there both very demanding but i try my hardest to concentrate on leon ( 3 year old ) needs when i get one on one time with him he dosnt seem to want to play with me he only wants his dad which is very heart breaking i will take your comments on board and see what i can do to make him happier

[MrsPincince]

There's got to be something making him lash out like that. Did anything "new" happen recently in your family? When children start using vocabulary that is out of the norm, it's because they are hearing it. You should try to find the culprit instead of discipline b/c that will just make the situation worse. Good luck!

[margypops]

Instead of focusing on disciplining him it would be better to find out Why he is behaving like this, have there been any changes in his life, new sibling, new home , is he is daycare ?Who else in the house says 'shut up,' children copy what they hear ...He is upset by something find out what it is ......