Dates calculator or traits.

[Rash_amo78]

I had sex with a guy last time on 12th Oct 2009 in a short term relationship when my partner away for a month.after this encounter I didn't sex with him. After one week, my partner returned and then we had sex so many time till the month of December.
My baby boy born on 2nd August 2010.
Though due dates calcululator suggests, my partner is the father and I also think so but my son has some traits which makes me worry.
Some traits which me and my partner don't have but that guy has.
1) cleft chin
2) dimples in cheeks
3) upper lip little dark then pink.

Some trait of my son which we don't but also I don't remember, that guy has or not.

1) Greek toes
2) no paek widows
3) new front teeth with gaps

I can't perform the paternity test because my partner unaware about all these jumbles.
Are these traits more authentic then dates.

[AnnieBrooke]

Sweetheart, as I am sure you know, sex on October 12 and would produce a baby July 5, not in August. The first guy's sperm was long dead in your body by the time you ovulated and got pregnant.

You ask if "traits" are more "authentic" than dates; I assume you are asking if they somehow disprove how long pregnancy lasts. No, they don't.

Sme things to remember: First of all, you are the one looking for these traits, and you have looked at probably a hundred traits in your child and are obsessing over only the few that your guilty secret is leading you to obsess over, and overlooking all the rest because you are worried about a (very unlikely) fear. More important, traits in children come not only from you and your partner, they come down from your mother and father, your partner's mother and father, and all their mothers and fathers all the way up the line. I knew a guy with quite dark skin whose eyes were grey. Nobody in his immediate family up to his grandparents had grey eyes. When he did an "Ancestry.com" test he found a portrait someone had posted of his great-great grandfather, and there were those grey eyes. He was surprised and quite delighted. Some traits are recessive in the family line and pop up only when the genetics allow.

Your child might someday do an Ancestry.com style of test just because they are interesting. The only way there would be a surprise in it is if your memory of the date of the sex being no later than October 12 is faulty, which it doesn't sound like it is. I also assume that at the time you weren't worried, because you had a period between the men? Please keep that in mind too.

It is possible to get a DNA test from Ravgen called a "discreet" test, in which you send in your partner's toothbrush or a swab run along the edge of his drinking glass. Your dates are so obvious that it would be a waste of effort to go this far. But if you seriously cannot stop worrying about things like chin dimples and clefts, AND if you think a test proving your partner is the dad will overcome your worries, it is possible to test without your partner knowing. I don't recommend testing because your dates don't suggest a problem, and often women whose guilty secrets are running the show are not soothed by a DNA test either, and then they have wasted all that money. But you know yourself best.

[Rash_amo78]

As I said at that time I was in relationship with that guy and was emotionally involved with him and I didn't kept a prompt watch on my period, yes probably I had a period.
One more thing I want to know, is it possible that an emotionally involvement during pregnancy period affected on traits? Because I was in thinking of him during my pregnancy time.

[AnnieBrooke]

No, thinking of him does not make the baby look like him.