Two straight-haired parents can have a curly-haired child. A lot of different genes, not just one, cause the hair to be curly, straight or wavy.
I read the article that you sent the reference to me about, on embryonic diapause. It is a good example of a doctor getting an enticing idea and ignoring contrary explanations. What they described were three women who had assisted reproduction (IVF or ICSI) and then were pregnant later, but too late for the assisted-reproduction cycle to be responsible. The doctors interpreted this as, the embryo was from the assisted-reproduction cycle but had just delayed in its development. However, the article didn't go into whether the couple had sex again after being told the IVF had failed. A common phenomenon in both miscarriage and uterine biopsy is that the woman gets pregnant right away after it, like if the uterus is messed with, it makes it more possible to get pregnant. An IVF or ICSI cycle also affects the uterus and the hormones, which might cause a woman to ovulate immediately. I didn't see in the article whether they even asked if the woman and her husband had had sex after the failed cycle, let alone got convincing proofs. (And even if they had, self-reporting weeks later about the dates of having sex can be incorrect due to not being able to remember.) It sounds more like the women just got pregnant naturally right after the assisted-reproduction cycles. Embryonic diapause has never been proven to happen in humans.
My suggestion to you is to get with a therapist and address your panic and guilt. It sounds like you've been overlooking the most important thing, which is that you have a lovely son and are lucky to have him. There are women who have written in about infertility who would change places with you immediately and be joyous to do it. Tell your partner that you're having problems with post-partum issues and see a counselor. Good luck!
Thank you so much Annie for you firm honest advice and to take the time to thoroughly nonsense my crazy ideas.
I hope I haven’t made any other women anxious with these thoughts it’s just me being a massive over thinker riddled with guilt and totally paranoid.
I’m going to take Annie’s advice and seek counselling for my little boys sake. And you are right I am so incredibly lucky to have him he’s amazing.
Thank you once again xx
Your original due date, based on a 5+ week scan, and then your follow up scan two weeks later showed 7 weeks 3 days, are very, very telling. Those show you conceived around Aug. 12. A conception around a month prior is out of the question, based on those scans.
You did not conceive from the one night stand guy.
Enjoy your baby, and your life!