MY mother is in Depression ! plzz help

[Anaks1]

my mother loved my father very much,
but on 2008 she caught my father in wrong activity
since then she is in depression, for one year she was very depressed. we moved to a new city,my father apologized and every thing went back to the track . Now After more than 5 years my mother can't forget this incident, she still feels depressed and sometimes talk about that incident.
i want to help my mom to overcome depression because i love my mom very much .
i try to keep she happy and busy in other household works but still she can't forget that incident, please help me


she don't even go to her friend's house!.

[MYoungAtHeart]

I know of many people that this happens to.  We are taught to forgive, but most of us forgive and never forget, hoping that if we keep an eye on what happened in the past, that we can forestall it happening again in the future.

I do believe that your mom could benefit from counseling with a qualified therapist, it may only take a few sessions to give her peace of mind with the thoughts that run rampant through her memories, or she may really enjoy talking with someone outside of the family to get other opinions and help in making her later years happier and more productive.

As the child in your parents relationship, I also imagine that you feel
quite bad that this is happening and may also feel that you must take
sides with either mom or dad.  That puts you and your own feelings
in turmoil as I imagine you love both of your parents very much.

Her medical doctor can refer her to therapy and also check out her physical health at the same time.

I do wish you and your family the very best in this

M

[Anaks1]

thanks
you are really helpful, YOU are GREAT
you can contact me and my mother on my email ID

***@****

[donnall65]

Im so sorry to hear this, my Mom went through the same thing and she is still with my Dad . thing is my Dad is a preacher so this hit the family hard the whole town knows and he lost his lisence to preach so you can imagine! You cant do anything to help your Mom I'm sorry to say something like this but its true. Your Mom is a proud woman to stay in the marriage as she has and a strong woman at that KNOW THIS....You on the other hand can only be there for support for her, take her out to a nice meal or a beutiful park some where but dr's can prescribe meds and she can talk to someone about it but honey it want go away. The reason it bothers her to this day is that way back in her mind she didnt forgive him he hurt her and he cant ever make that up, she has to decide if she can go on pretending all is well thats a BIG DISSION an only one she can make. You just need to let her know that what ever she decides you will be there for her and dont let the problams of your parents reflect on your life thats probably one of the reasons  why shes still there. talk to her.... Children offten think their parents split because of something they did so thats why YOU need to sit down with your mom let her know your concerns and that you want to help in any way that you can . And if you wanna talk I'm here! My email is ***@**** My prayers are with you and you'rs! Donna