I would tell her what you want and tell her to make a decision. You say you want to be a father to her child, does that mean you want to marry her too?
People make mistakes and that's okay, but she at least has to own up to her mistakes and either try to make it right with you or let you go.
Is she or is'nt she in a committed relationship with this other guy? If she's answering your calls it seems like she is not. Wouldn't you be worried that if the two of you did get back together she would do the same thing to you? There's no going back and forth. Either you're in a committed relationship or you're not.
I know you're hurting right now and you want things to be the way they were. But, I really think you would be much better off if you moved ahead with your life. You're young and you're going to meet other girls. One of them is going to be the right girl for you.
To me, it sounds like your ex is keeping you hanging on just in case the other guy skips out on her. Just my opinion and I could very well be wrong. This is all driving you crazy with her going back and forth between the two of you. That's really no way to live. You deserve to be happy.
The doctors said that it was very unlikey mine like a .1% chance of being mine. They will get a test when it is born to be sure. Thats the thing i dont care about the drama i love this girl with everything i have. and she did for me too at one point. Like before we found out about the baby she was wanting to come back to me. and then when we found out she still wanted it to be me and for me to be the dad not him at all then later on she changed her mind cuz shes so frustrated with me.But i cant really move on ever its not fair to someone else if all i want is my ex. im willing to wait a long time and have hope that it could work out between us then to ever try at love again. and idk if that is just creepy or what it is. but i dont want this girl out of my life. and she still cares like she answers my calls if i ever call and replies to my text. with him she never did that. we did have something special and im willing to be there for her if she dont want to be with him and make it work out even though its not my kid i will step up and be a great dad
I'm sorry you're going through this. How do you know for sure the baby is'nt yours? I would ask for a DNA test when the baby is born.
You say this girl is very conservative but she is seeing two men at the same time and her boyfriend had to help her because she was so drunk. Also, she was having sex with two men and not using any protection. Now there's a baby on the way and there's no way to say who the father is until it's born.
Think about it. Do you really want all of this drama in your life? Of course if the baby does turn out to be yours you will have to be there for that child.
It sounds like you may have had some depression going on for awhile now. Have you ever been in therapy? If not, I would highly recommend it. It will help you deal with the depression.
We're here to listen and help any way we can.