Love?

[Holespoles95]

Just wondering if it's possible to have a loving relationship while suffering depression. What's it like to be with someone, do you tell them? Do they understand.
I'm just wanting to find love, will it help my depression if and when I do?

[Holespoles95]

Yea I've got another appointment at the hospiTal Monday arvo to get my medication fixed up. Then I'll start some counselling. Thanks for your support guys

[nursegirl6572]

Of course it can work out, but don't busy your mind necessary worries right now.

Focus on the here and now, which should be getting yourself feeling better.  Have you sought professional help for the way you feel?  Your other post was mentioning suicide, and I'm concerned about you.

Please check in and let us know how you're doing!

[JessieJ21]

You definitely will

[4Maddie44]

I agree with everyone above.  Yes you can find love.  As suggested, if you do meet someone who you fall in love with, then it is better to be honest with them.  How would you feel if someone you loved told you they had depression - would you still love them?  People are  human beings, not an illness.  To love a person you must love all of them, illness too.  There are people out there who will love you for who you are.  

Many people who are depressed are in good relationships.  You are a lovely young lady (love your cat) and I am sure you will in the future found a true and loving relationship.  don't worry about the future now, just look after yourself.  Love will find you in good time.

[Paxiled]

Of course you can.  We're capable of complex emotions and more than one at a time.  But it does make you harder to be loved, so it is better if you find a way to deal with it, but you surely shouldn't think this leaves you a lifetime of not loving, it doesn't.

[devi13darling]

To truly love someone you must first love yourself. I understand that can be hard, but that is the best way to make a relationship work and help yourself. But, I would tell whoever you get with, if you are comfortable with them, that way they have a better understanding of you. And it really is bad to hide things from someone you are in a relationship with.

[Mozxanax]

Be honest with yourself about your depression first. Of course you deserve to love and be loved. If you're in therapy you might talk about the fear of being open and work on knowing when you feel ready to be in a relationship. You might decide you're not up to it yet and want to be sure of yourself. When you do feel you connect with someone it's best to be honest. If you hide that side of you it will risk ruining the relationship because it will show itself eventually. There are good people out there who know that people don't come perfect like cars off a showroom. But, if you're not honest how will you know you've found someone with that quality? You might end up with someone shallow that's not good enough for you.