When is it better to cry?

[Lizzytish1313]

The last time I reached out was disappointing, but I have another question. Perhaps somebody in the community will answer with a little more compassion than my last question generated. Okay, so when we're brokenhearted, does crying serve any therapeutic purpose? I'm wondering if I don't feel less depressed when I don't yield to tears. Then I wonder what happens if I stuff these feelings?

I work that gratitude list like you wouldn't believe. The gratitude list is what's kept me from absolute despair. That technique is simply about working a word or two like "gratitude," "peace," "love," even "beauty" and there are others, but "gratitude" is best... the technique works, these words are powerful (I call them "depression suppressants," lol) but I'm wondering about the need to cry. Does that dam of tears just behind my eyes have to break ... be given voice and space ... to go away? Or will it ever go away? I would really like it to go away.

[medstudentte]

Crying is a form of stress relief that your body needs. Stress has many unfavorable effects on our health. So a good cry releases chemicals and toxins that build up from stress. It helps the body heal. Holding back tears  only creating a tension inside your body, so cry away. BUT if you are uncontrollably crying for "no" known reason I would ask my doctor. It could be an emotional hidden reason or a physical (imbalance) that you need help with. :) Think of crying like your body's way of bring a rainbow to your heat!

[Lizzytish1313]

Thank you. Thank you for being kind. I don't know why anyone would use (abuse) these forums to unleash their negativity, or their need to feel better than ... or more well-informed than ..., on another. So perverse is the need to dispense cruel wisdom on people who are hurting. So inappropriate is this forum for self-aggrandizement. So thank you for not being one of those, but I've only posted a few times here, and I've gotten more than one irritating response, so I think I'll leave you all to it. Thanks again singinbeauty, you are a shining jewel in the midst of a steaming pile. I won't be back.

[Paxiled]

Crying does release negative feelings and increase positive ones, but only temporarily, but that's better than nothing.  But it doesn't change anything, unfortunately.  Crying when bad things happen is cathartic; crying constantly because of depression is a different thing.  And CBT, just to be accurate, is cognitive behavioral therapy, not cognitive brain therapy.

[Lizzytish1313]

Thanks for the comment.

[Lizzytish1313]

Thanks for the kind input. Sometimes it feels like if I let the tears begin, I won't be able to stop them.