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dont feel very good. tired of the bad feelings
I feel so alone. the person that stays just sits in her chair. does not pick up after herself. I cant clean up the house I stay so tired and dizzy. my headaches are getting worse. I took all the garbage out. it was smelling. the other day when I took out the garbage I fell and like never got up. I told her when I got back in the house that I fell and never to have got up. she said ok. wish she would go live with her daughter for a while. sorry all I do is com[;aine. I amso tired. I don't want to go on. love you guys. mandy876
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I live in copperas cove. You can always look in care.com the have licenced nurses certified aides certified cpr. Background checks can be done as well. I've gotten quiet a few clients from this site that have your same needs and more. Go check it out! There are a ton if big hearted cnas out there!
her daughter moved out she moved to Houston with her boyfriend. she just had her second baby boy. we have both missed the 6 year old he lived with us for 6 years. we miss him terribly. about 6 years ago when my mom died basically I died to. I gave up I already lost my dad and hubby. and iwas not eating or anything. she came in and made me go to beauty shop and we went out to eat. she saved my life. I can not give up on her. her mom does not want her. she is bi polar and manic depressed. I love her but she is hard to live with. yes it is my money that me and my husband saved for me to survive on. her daddy called last night and told me we could not come and see them anymore. my sis is cold that is my sis and her daughter. see what keeps me upset at my family.mandy876
Hi Mandy, I'd love to check in and keep you company also, if you'd like. I'm sorry you're so lonely, even with your niece and her daughter there. I haven't gone through all your posts yet, so forgive me if I'm missing a point, but one thing that's happening that is absolutely CRAZY is that your cat is being put out, when you need to have them indoors as a constant companion, to keep your mood up. If you can't count on your niece to clean the cat litter, but if you could just commit yourself to responsibly looking after a cat's needs, you could stalk up on supplies, and keep the cat litter on a large table, that you can easily reach to clean. I know that you're depressed, and don't have the energy to do too much, but I'm sure, given the rewards, that you could manage. I think it would help alot to have an animal that needs you to attend to them, and nurture them, on a daily basis. Some type of daily chore that get's you out of your own head a bit?
If you can't count on your niece for cleaning the house and the cat litter, then why do you have her there exactly? Please don't give your niece any more of your money, spend that on a caregiver for yourself instead. You can have a high school student come in and serve you dinner, maybe instead? Can you give your niece's rooms to a caregiver? Is assisted living out of the question? The inheritance you're talking about, please tell me it's not your money that's in question?
If you can't count on your niece for cleaning the house and the cat litter, then why do you have her there exactly? Please don't give your niece any more of your money, spend that on a caregiver for yourself instead. You can have a high school student come in and serve you dinner, maybe instead? Can you give your niece's rooms to a caregiver? Is assisted living out of the question? The inheritance you're talking about, please tell me it's not your money that's in question?
I have listened to everyone and I have cried and thought about everything. I decided I cant get better if I don't do something about it myself. I felt like I was going to die so what was the use. next week my niece and I are going to an HMR session for a group session. I think this will help us. we both are ready to go. things are already better between.us she called her dad and he told her she was not welcome there. do you see why I feel bad about my sister. that is her flesh and blood that needs her. I will never dump her are turn my back on her no matter what. she lost her job she doesn't miss her job she misses all the friends ahe made. they have been calling and coming by to see her. I am proud of her. she has lost a lot of weight; her meds make her nauseous and not hungry. we will be there for each other. you all have really helped. god bless you mandy876
You have friends here. We do care about you. I spend a lot of time alone because of my husbands business. I also have anxiety and depression. I have 2 little Chihuahuas and a cat. My husband takes our Boston with him. Having pets does make a world of difference. They love you unconditionally. And, it makes you feel good to take care of them. Think about getting a pet. Who cares what your family thinks.
I'm not sure if you're a religious person or not but what about going to church to meet new friends. Most churches will pick you up and take you home. Check on senior centers in your area too. They have get togethers, play bingo, sit and talk.
I do understand depression very well, just like the other people that are posting here. It can be so hard to even get out of bed some days. Try not to pressure yourself. If you can just do one thing at a time that's great.
I'm not sure if you're a religious person or not but what about going to church to meet new friends. Most churches will pick you up and take you home. Check on senior centers in your area too. They have get togethers, play bingo, sit and talk.
I do understand depression very well, just like the other people that are posting here. It can be so hard to even get out of bed some days. Try not to pressure yourself. If you can just do one thing at a time that's great.
thank you I am making a head start. my niece just lost her job with walmarts. don't know if she will want to go back there. she has a lot of friends there. its hard when no one listens are cares. god bless you. mandy876
Mandy876 I can understand where your coming from I too suffer from severe headaches they call them cluster headaches which have mind of their own and come and go as they please. I'm just like you I am very nice person who lets everyone walk all over her especially my family they know they and they do. As for the pharmacy thing if you have Walmart they will mail them to you if you go online. I use Walmart for my scripts. I pray that you get the help you need to get past all of these things and hope that you just keep the faith that you will get through this we are all here for you. God bless!
cvs I asked them if they would mail me my prescriptions they said no. I have notasked walgreens I will ask them. thank you; mandy876
I just read this whole conversation and am deeply saddened by it, not so much that it happens, but that most of the family members and neighbors of mandy876 have really no idea what she is going through on a daily or even hourly basis....
My best friend, Marge, had almost to the T, the same complaints, the same reactions to family and friends including me that she pushed everyone away, and those who did try the hardest were unleashed with very strong words and many times violent actions. Marges family had to be brought in to intervene and then she was able to get some help.
I hope mandy876 can pick up the phone, or type a note to a significant other that she feels she needs help...My prayers go out to her and hope she comes back on list again...
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My best friend, Marge, had almost to the T, the same complaints, the same reactions to family and friends including me that she pushed everyone away, and those who did try the hardest were unleashed with very strong words and many times violent actions. Marges family had to be brought in to intervene and then she was able to get some help.
I hope mandy876 can pick up the phone, or type a note to a significant other that she feels she needs help...My prayers go out to her and hope she comes back on list again...
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I have Walgreens and CVS here. Their policies are the same across all their sites. You are right, they don't deliver BUT they do mail if you have a credit or debit card to pay for your medication over the telephone.
I am a very caring person, and I am so sorry if I have upset you.
Lets stay good friends, and you can help me cope with my withdrawal. I don't remember you threatening anyone. I don't want you hurt.
Take care
Lets stay good friends, and you can help me cope with my withdrawal. I don't remember you threatening anyone. I don't want you hurt.
Take care
Mandy, please don't leave me to go through this withdrawal on my own. it is now I need your support. Please help me.
Thank you
Thank you
do you think I would just be sitting here if they delivered. they do not deliver..cvs is the pharmacy they do not deliver. walgreens does not deliver my niece uses them unless in the last 20ays things have changed. she is mistakened. I have nothing to look forward to my life ended when my family died. I have no dreams no hopes no nothing. im to old to find a srtupid man. I dont have a car. I am alone you have your families. I have no one. I have no Christmas, no thanksgiving, no birthday. tell me what I have to look forward to. maddie this is not to you this is to nursegirl. you have kids you have reasons to wake up something to look forward to. I have n0thing.i hsve to go I cant see the keys anymore . mandy876
And to add to what Maddie said, we DO want to help...and we'll always be there for you, but a person has to help themselves if they expect anything to improve. A saying comes to mind, and it's very appropriate..."Nothing changes if nothing changes". Isn't that true?
Time to start living dear. We ALL face similar problems, so it's not like we don't know how hard it is. I have such a lack of motivation most days, I would prefer to do nothing but lie around and mope...but it's not an option for me. The dishes need done, laundry needs folded, my kids need me. So, I push myself to get through those rough days, and you know what?? Every single time I do, I feel SO much better, and just making those accomplishments makes me want to do more. You have to try so you can see for yourself.
We wish you the best...and we'll help you formulate a plan...a plan to turn it around, turn the negatives into positives...and we'll help you find additional resources in your area if you want us to. But, after that, you have to make some effort...not for us, but for yourself dear!
If we can do it, so can you! We're no different than you are.
Time to start living dear. We ALL face similar problems, so it's not like we don't know how hard it is. I have such a lack of motivation most days, I would prefer to do nothing but lie around and mope...but it's not an option for me. The dishes need done, laundry needs folded, my kids need me. So, I push myself to get through those rough days, and you know what?? Every single time I do, I feel SO much better, and just making those accomplishments makes me want to do more. You have to try so you can see for yourself.
We wish you the best...and we'll help you formulate a plan...a plan to turn it around, turn the negatives into positives...and we'll help you find additional resources in your area if you want us to. But, after that, you have to make some effort...not for us, but for yourself dear!
If we can do it, so can you! We're no different than you are.
Please read nursegirl's suggestion above. It all makes sense. You said you could not get anyone to deliver your medication, and she looks up places in your area that DO deliver.
You haven't tried at all have you, to help yourself? I am sorry but there is nothing more we can do here. We have tried hard to motivate you. Each time you come back with the same moans. Please, please try and help yourself. We cannot do anything more for you. Yes, we listen, but it is always the same from you. Always negative.
I want to be a friend, but friends do try and help and support. What more can I do? Yes I will listen to you, I know you need that. I am sorry about all you are going through.
What else can I do to help Mandy?
You haven't tried at all have you, to help yourself? I am sorry but there is nothing more we can do here. We have tried hard to motivate you. Each time you come back with the same moans. Please, please try and help yourself. We cannot do anything more for you. Yes, we listen, but it is always the same from you. Always negative.
I want to be a friend, but friends do try and help and support. What more can I do? Yes I will listen to you, I know you need that. I am sorry about all you are going through.
What else can I do to help Mandy?
Hon..I've told you soooo many times (we ALL have)...you cannot just sit around and wait to feel better. YOU have to help yourself. Without that, you're right, there IS no hope. We've given you SO many suggestions or resources to call, things to do...we've told you you need to take the power back from your niece and stop letting her walk all over you, but you just don't seem to be trying at ALL!
I'm very worried about you...if you don't have the strength or motivation to even clean up around the house, until the garbage smells, that's not good. Once again, you need to tell the others in your house to pull their weight, or they can go. Simple as that.
Mandy honey...YOU are in control of your life, no one else is. I know you're fed up and frustrated, but you have done very very little to help yourself. Like Maddie says, she struggles, a lot in the same ways you do, but she pushes herself. Yes, it's very hard, NONE of us want to push ourselves, but we have to. There are days brushing my own teeth is a chore, but I FORCE myself, and every time, I feel better that I did!
Sitting around and feeling sorry for ourselves when we're doing nothing to help ourselves is NOT going to do anything but make us feel worse. Go back and read all of your other threads, and take note of the recommendations.
Just one example, I just googled pharamcies in your area and got a ton of results, and most of the larger chains absolutely have delivery service:
http://www.google.com/url?sa=t&rct=j&q=haltom%20city%20tx%2C%20pharmacies&source=web&cd=2&cad=rja&ved=0CEoQFjAB&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.yellowpages.com%2Fhaltom-city-tx%2Fpharmacies&ei=QC4gUbWFMY3sigLO0IH4DQ&usg=AFQjCNG9ZsNhwVzxBs3-SF7oQlm8EK9tBQ&bvm=bv.42661473,d.cGE
I googled haltom city tx, pharmacies. Theres a CVS AND a Walgreens, they are both known for their delivery services.
Bottom line, you have to TRY. If you don't, you're going to feel worse and worse. You don't have to change the world in a day...baby steps...but you have to start somewhere.
I'm very worried about you...if you don't have the strength or motivation to even clean up around the house, until the garbage smells, that's not good. Once again, you need to tell the others in your house to pull their weight, or they can go. Simple as that.
Mandy honey...YOU are in control of your life, no one else is. I know you're fed up and frustrated, but you have done very very little to help yourself. Like Maddie says, she struggles, a lot in the same ways you do, but she pushes herself. Yes, it's very hard, NONE of us want to push ourselves, but we have to. There are days brushing my own teeth is a chore, but I FORCE myself, and every time, I feel better that I did!
Sitting around and feeling sorry for ourselves when we're doing nothing to help ourselves is NOT going to do anything but make us feel worse. Go back and read all of your other threads, and take note of the recommendations.
Just one example, I just googled pharamcies in your area and got a ton of results, and most of the larger chains absolutely have delivery service:
http://www.google.com/url?sa=t&rct=j&q=haltom%20city%20tx%2C%20pharmacies&source=web&cd=2&cad=rja&ved=0CEoQFjAB&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.yellowpages.com%2Fhaltom-city-tx%2Fpharmacies&ei=QC4gUbWFMY3sigLO0IH4DQ&usg=AFQjCNG9ZsNhwVzxBs3-SF7oQlm8EK9tBQ&bvm=bv.42661473,d.cGE
I googled haltom city tx, pharmacies. Theres a CVS AND a Walgreens, they are both known for their delivery services.
Bottom line, you have to TRY. If you don't, you're going to feel worse and worse. You don't have to change the world in a day...baby steps...but you have to start somewhere.
I have thought of quiting my pills and drink I haven't had a drink in 25 years. but I didn't have all these problems then. maybe I better get off my pills first. I am so confused. I just want to cry. by dear friend. mandy876
I tried to write to you but they said I was blocked. I did send a note don't know if it went through.i need to talk to someone. my niece is losing a lot of weight. her upper arms are drooping and she is upset about this. she didn't really ask me but she has appointments to have surgery. I heard her tell her daughter that I was going to take the money out of her inheritance. it will be around 4,000.00. I need my teeth fixed i guess that is out. she is still mean. she did clean the house she advised me that she did it for her not me. I told her I was going to get someone to come in I was not going to live in my home the way it is. my home was always a home this is a house with no love. sorry I am so upset. she asked me not to tell any one.i feel sick. I got to go and take something. glad I have a dear friend to talk to. mandt876
Yes our furry friends are such a comfort.
I too did not sleep well last night, so I have a nap during the day. Days vary, but I am more positive than you, I think. I live alone with dear Smudge, my cat, and I get out when I feel well enough. Just tired sometimes, and last few days arthritis playing up, and walking rather painful. Nevertheless, I am still determined to taper off my antidepressant.
The sun is shining today, and life is not so bad. The best things in life are free. If you are lonely, go out and find things to do. If you are bored, read, or find a nice hobby to do indoors. When weather nice, go for a little walk.
Try and answer other people's queries, so you feel you are helping others. Go to the cinema, ride on a bus. Go for a trip on a coach. Take your walking stick, and hobble if you must. Don't stay indoors feeling sorry for yourself.
Make friends with those you live with, and have little outings with them in the car.
Lots of life to live yet, even with depression and anxiety.
I too did not sleep well last night, so I have a nap during the day. Days vary, but I am more positive than you, I think. I live alone with dear Smudge, my cat, and I get out when I feel well enough. Just tired sometimes, and last few days arthritis playing up, and walking rather painful. Nevertheless, I am still determined to taper off my antidepressant.
The sun is shining today, and life is not so bad. The best things in life are free. If you are lonely, go out and find things to do. If you are bored, read, or find a nice hobby to do indoors. When weather nice, go for a little walk.
Try and answer other people's queries, so you feel you are helping others. Go to the cinema, ride on a bus. Go for a trip on a coach. Take your walking stick, and hobble if you must. Don't stay indoors feeling sorry for yourself.
Make friends with those you live with, and have little outings with them in the car.
Lots of life to live yet, even with depression and anxiety.
the only way I can get better is to find someone who has a good heart that does not lie. that wants to be happy and do things. it has been so long since I have been happy. I found oreo yesterday he was next door they have two cats. I let him in and fed him and he came in my room and laid on my bed. he is a little weird, he sleeps on his back. it is so cute. when she got home she put him outside. I kind of like him in here im not so alone, I can rub his tummy he used to bite me but now he just lays there. I was afraid he got taken in by someone. im not any better. I am so nervous feel like screaming. I woke up around 5 ;00am love your frieb=nd mandy876
Please don't be bitter with people. Negative feelings make depression worse.
I am not what I would call an outgoing person at all. I just have the guts to go out and find things to do. It is not easy, I know. I do not want to sit indoors moaning about how lonely I am though. When depression has been bad, of course I shut myself away. But when I am able, I am out there finding life.
Yes I am 72 years old like you, but it is not the end of life by any means. I am sorry you have an uncaring family. All the more reason to show them you can make a life of your own without them.
Please do not dwell on negative things in your life. Only you can make it better. Take it from me who has been very ill with depression at times.
Let Mckee help you please.
I am not what I would call an outgoing person at all. I just have the guts to go out and find things to do. It is not easy, I know. I do not want to sit indoors moaning about how lonely I am though. When depression has been bad, of course I shut myself away. But when I am able, I am out there finding life.
Yes I am 72 years old like you, but it is not the end of life by any means. I am sorry you have an uncaring family. All the more reason to show them you can make a life of your own without them.
Please do not dwell on negative things in your life. Only you can make it better. Take it from me who has been very ill with depression at times.
Let Mckee help you please.
im trying to get everything ready before I say anything. then I want be left alone. im trying to work things out in my head, with all these headaches that is a problem. yes I am taking her advice very seriously. im shy not out going like you, I have hardened in my old age due to my cold uncaring family. sister. have not seen her in a long time I weight about 100 and she tops 200 we are opposites in every way. I have a soft caring heart I care about others and put them before me. she cares about herself
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