son depressed

[shazz46]

My son just turned 19 and doesn't go out at all. He sleeps all day for about 12 hours then up all night. He hardly eats anything he says everything is poison. He refuses to go see a doctor and says if I do anything he will kill himself. He has not worked for the last 6 months and says whats the point. He says he is not depressed. I don't know what to do if he won't go see anyone. Any suggestions?

[mammo]

As his mother you can have him put into the hospital where he can get the much needed help he needs. They will  monitor him 27/7 to protect him from himself, while giving him therapy.  I know this sounds harsh, but in reality...you are his only hope.  He is controlling the situation because he threatens you with suicide, he knows this works for him. You won't know until he gets help if he is even capable of suicide, but he wields much control with his threat. This is a very difficult thing for you to endure, while watching your son deteriorate.I know you want him to be an independent adult and self sufficient, but it won't happen this way.  Since he is not working, you do have control over what he does all night.  If he is on the computer...take it away.  Playing video games...take them away, no TV, etc.  He has to understand that he is an adult living in your home and needs to be respectful of this.  If he has nothing to do at night, he may find it the best time to sleep. If you don't make it so easy for him to live like he is, he may just start thinking for himself and want help just to get a job and his own place.  You are enabling him to call the shots and act as he does.  This only shows what a loving mother you are, but he is playing with your love and using it to continue living as he does. But regardless, he needs help. He will be angry at first, but the hospital will help him work through this also, and in the end he will thank you.  You truly need to get with your local hospital and speak with someone about your options, and go from there.  Take care.....

[DandMe]

Trying to help someone who isn't ready for help is hard.  I have a bipolar son the same age as yours.  He has periods of the same symptons.  I know you want to help but fear he will  hate you if you take the nessary steps to help.  I can assure you that when he is better, he will thank you.  If he dosen't, then at least he is healthy.  I know at times,  you must feel powerless not being able to help your child. I've had to have my son admitted to a mental ward.  He was mad, but when the cycle was over, he knew I did it to help.  Is there anyone he would listen to? I wish you the best of luck.  I know you love your son and only want to help.  Maybe he will see that too.