gilly jay

[gillyjay]

Please help my 12 year old bichon as just bin diagnosed with kidney failure we are gutted as ad him since pup we are so scared in losing him he ok in is self. Just old age please help Anita an Carol xxx

[gillyjay]

Hi Tony hope your well, we are coping as best as we can but still very heartbroken, we have him home with US now he went to a beautiful pet crematorium called bushy hill farm we had to do the best for him also we talk about him always an friends an family have been very supportive as they all loved him to, his presence is in the house an we burn a candle always an we have his smelly blankets around our necks when in the house!!! Please keep in contact Tony as you have always been there for us and if I can help anyone for support please let me know as I would like to share my thoughts with anyone that needs it! You taught me so much and I will never forget that! You are my guardian angel..... Take care an big hugs with love Nita xxxxxx

[tonyb286]

Hello Anita and Carol. I'm hoping today is just a little bit easier than yesterday ... and maybe tomorrow will be just a little bit better too. It is so hard coping with this kind of loss, but time helps, it really does. You have been amazing - and never stop remembering that. Gilly would be so proud of you for coping and he certainly wouldn't want you to be upset. You gave him so much, and in return, you got the volume of love and loyalty you rightly deserved. Sharing our lives with our best friends is one of the greatest of life's joys, which is why it hurts so much when it is taken away from us. Try to remember the good times, if you can ... lots of love, Tony x

[gillyjay]

Hi there just to say thankyou for the beautiful poems our heart's are broken an we miss him so much! And we are so sorry to hear your sad loss of your beautiful baby! Is it true that times a healer!!!! With kind regards Anita, Carol x

[gillyjay]

Hi Tony thankyou so much for your kind words an thoughts for us,we miss our boy so so much an our heart's are torn but the more we think about it we did the right thing by him he was going down fast but now he sleeps peacefully with him snuggled in his blanket an with his babies, we hope to pick him up early next week an then maybe the pain will ease, I miss his cuddles so so much he was my life!! I hope the new world he has gone they love and protect him an he will always look down at us an give us some guidance because now our souls need help,, we really appreciate all your support Tony you was always there for me and helped me so much in understanding this awful illness my heart is blessed by that!! Thankyou again Tony keep up your brilliant support to others you are blessed with take great care big love Anita Carol xxxxxxxxx

[aria88]

Hi gillyjay. I am so sorry for your loss. I had to put my 12 year old shih tzu to sleep in July 2012 because of renal failure so I can understand how you feel right now :(
Here are a couple of poems that brought me some comfort. I hope they help you too:

The Last Battle

If it should be that I grow frail and weak,
And pain should keep me from my sleep,
Then will you do what must be done,
For this, the last battle, can't be won.


You will be sad I understand,
But don't let grief then stay your hand,
For on this day, more than the rest,
Your love and friendship must stand the test.


We have had so many happy years,
You wouldn't want me to suffer so.
When the time comes, please, let me go.


Take me to where to my needs they'll tend,
Only, stay with me till the end
And hold me firm and speak to me,
Until my eyes no longer see.

I know in time you will agree,
It is a kindness you do to me.
Although my tail its last has waved,
From pain and suffering I have been saved.


Don't grieve that it must be you,
Who has to decide this thing to do;
We've been so close,we two, these years,
Don't let your heart hold any tears.


I Stood By Your Bed Last Night

I stood by your bed last night, I came to have a peep. I could see that you were crying, You found it hard to sleep.

I whined to you softly as you brushed away a tear, "It's me, I haven't left you, I'm well, I'm fine, I'm here."

I was close to you at breakfast, I watched you pour the tea, You were thinking of the many times, your hands reached down to me.

I was with you at the shops today, Your arms were getting sore. I longed to take your parcels, I wish I could do more.

I was with you at my grave today, You tend it with such care. I want to reassure you, that I'm not lying there.

I walked with you towards the house, as you fumbled for your key. I gently put my paw on you, I smiled and said "it's me."

You looked so very tired, and sank into a chair. I tried so hard to let you know, that I was standing there.

It's possible for me to be so near you everyday. To say to you with certainty, "I never went away."

You sat there very quietly, then smiled, I think you knew, in the stillness of that evening, I was very close to you.

The day is over... I smile and watch you yawning and say "good-night, God bless, I'll see you in the morning."

And when the time is right for you to cross the brief divide, I'll rush across to greet you and we'll stand, side by side.

I have so many things to show you, there is so much for you to see. Be patient, live your journey out ... then come home to be with me.

[tonyb286]

When I first saw your most recent post, I wanted to reply straight away, but tears prevented it. I have never met you or Gilly, yet you all seem so much like friends - and it is heartbreaking, I know, to have gone through what you have had to go through. Words are never ever easy at a time like this, so forgive me if mine aren't quite right ... if Gilly could say it, he would thank you for being such wonderful parents, for giving him everything you did, time, attention, and so much love. He was a lucky lucky boy to have shared his life with you. In time, your heartache will ease and you will be able to remember all those happy times, though right now I understand that may seem so far away. You did what you had to do, even though I empathise with how hard it must have been. Gilly is at peace now. No more pain, no more worrying, no more desperate days trying to breathe and finding it difficult. You did what all parents fear having to do in the best interests of their best friend. Feel free to talk here at any time ... but for now, please know that you are in my thoughts. Lots of love, Tony x