Hi Brockenhearted, sonnds like things are on the wain, but at least your trying, at 49 it could be his libido on the down side, you could try him on some DHEA its a hormon, but please read up about it first, as it can have the odd funny side effect with the od person, it will help boost his testosterone, lift his libido, and kick up his energy levels, and if you get him try some Tribulus, its a herb, they run along the same lines but its just another boost for him and you.
You say hes masturbating, but this like me may take some time, and could be why he does not ejeculate why having sex, and again like this happens, but mine was from ED and now in recovery, but these things still happen to me, and Viagra do not work for me either gave me HBP.
The problem is us men, think were OK till we hit a brick wall, and some men dont like to get help.
You will have to be honest with him and say you have been looking for help for him, as you want your sex lives back to normal.
Do hope this helps.
Good Luck
Ditto above.
Also, if he were getting oral sex from someone in his car, yes, he could possibly be ejaculating not in the other person's mouth but in his underwear. The way he is acting about you, I would frankly question whether he is hiding that he is getting sex from guys, I wouldn't assume automatically it's some female account manager.
Also, and very seriously!!!! Report the company's asinine and illegal attitude that females have to give men oral sex as an implicit condition of employment to the president of the company (if the company is large) or to the state government agency in charge of sexual harassment claims. Give enough detail to be persuasive; department, names, anything you have. How would you like yourself, your best friend, or your daughter to be working in a company where there is "a culture" where the female account managers think that if one of their male colleagues take them out for lunch that they have to give him oral sex? (Boy, that sure would put me off of lunch invitations.) If this is really true in his company, it is flat out against the law, as it is is no better than forced prostitution, and someone should blow the whistle. How can you even wonder if that is OK?
Well, I'm not sure why you are interested in him. It doesn't sound like a very satisfactory relationship. He isn't a good communicator and the sex isn't good. I think I would move on and join and gym to improve my self-esteem and feel attractive to the opposite sex.
Further to my post above.. he had a vasectomy in Jan this year. He said he was doing this so I wouldnt have to go on the pill or have a hysterectomy. This just confuses me more as he has only ejaculated inside me 3 times so there is very little chance of a pregnancy and it seems like very little reason to have a vasectomy. He has ejaculated when I give him oral sex. The total number of time he has actually ejaculated, regardless of the situation would be no more than 10.