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My brother passed away April 1, 2009. He had troubles with drugs like heroin xanax and methadone. We think he just slipped away (like heath ledger) but no conclusive results are in yet from the med examiner. I am crushed. It was overwhelming for the first 6 weeks. It's still overwhelming now that 2 months have passed but its less intense. Though at times the reality of the pain is worse than the first few weeks. I dont know how i will get thru this. Survival is my only thought. I laugh at trivial things like work job money clothing. Those are basic necessities of life and they are TRIVIAL compared to this. Does anyone feel me here?
Henry
Henry
Hi Henry,
I am sorry for the tragic loss of your brother, how sad. I can imagine how difficult it is to deal with a situation like this as my son's best friend of many years died from what we believed to be drug related--no one but the family actually knew the exact details. We knew he was addicted to pain killers big time.
The grief process is very painful and slow. I understand what you mean about trivial things--death does seem to make us see that so many of the things we worry about in life are unimportant. Just want you to know you will be in my thoughts and prayers and I hope as each day passes, your pain will begin to ease.
I am sorry for the tragic loss of your brother, how sad. I can imagine how difficult it is to deal with a situation like this as my son's best friend of many years died from what we believed to be drug related--no one but the family actually knew the exact details. We knew he was addicted to pain killers big time.
The grief process is very painful and slow. I understand what you mean about trivial things--death does seem to make us see that so many of the things we worry about in life are unimportant. Just want you to know you will be in my thoughts and prayers and I hope as each day passes, your pain will begin to ease.
Hi Henry,
My very deepest condolences on the untimely passing of your beloved brother.
I also had a great loss, my mother and the experience can only be described a life changing. I will never be the same person and I miss my mother so bad.
Life is so precious and can be taken in the blink of an eye with long lasting pain to the remaining family. You are right, material thinks become unimportant. We also realize how short life really is. The grief process is different for everyone. It took me 2 yrs. to begin to feel somewhat normal, but there is not a day that I don't think and yearn for my mom. It will take a long time, but one day at a time and one step at a time, you one day will see the light at the end of the tunnel, but what a journey.....Judy
My very deepest condolences on the untimely passing of your beloved brother.
I also had a great loss, my mother and the experience can only be described a life changing. I will never be the same person and I miss my mother so bad.
Life is so precious and can be taken in the blink of an eye with long lasting pain to the remaining family. You are right, material thinks become unimportant. We also realize how short life really is. The grief process is different for everyone. It took me 2 yrs. to begin to feel somewhat normal, but there is not a day that I don't think and yearn for my mom. It will take a long time, but one day at a time and one step at a time, you one day will see the light at the end of the tunnel, but what a journey.....Judy
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