please pray

[lsatter]

When my oldest daughter  called and told me I was gonna be a granma I cryed with joy.Her and the baby were doing great so the Dr. told us .On Oct.19 my daughter was put in the hospital for back pain.They said they were gonna keep her overnight. Around 3 pm they had to do an emergancy c-section. We never got a answer to why they did.2 hours after my granddaughter past away. They said my daughter was gonna be put in ccu. She laid in recovery for 5 hours.waiting on paperwork. The recovery is were she passed away with her friends by her side.They said she woke up and said i fell better now and then she was gone.I wanted a autopsy.But I had no rights because she was married.He didnt want to find out what happened to them. It will be 4 years in Oct. and im still hurting deeply inside.Not knowing what happened to my babies.Please to all that read this say a prayer for me.
                                                                   " RIP "

                                                           Alisha Faye Parker
                                                            Born  9/11/87
                                                            Died 10/19/06
                                                         Rylee Alexis Parker
                                                            Born 10/19/06
                                                            Died 10/19/06

[kcd86]

I am so very sorry for your losses. 29sillygirl makes some very good points and the truth is our loved ones are not with us anymore and nothing can bring them back.
Having said that closure is part of the grieving process which is handled differently by each individual. lsatter you need to have closure by getting answers to why your daughter passed away which you do deserve,then ask her husband if he can get the hospital records and have them reviewed. If you decide to go that route please keep in mind it can re-open wounds so be prepared for anything.
Wish you all the best

[29sillygirl]

So very sorry for your losses.  Since October have you seen a grief counselor or anyone qualified to help you get through this tragedy?  From what you wrote your grief is still as fresh as the day it happened in Oct.  You must move on without them as cold as that may sound.  My son died on March 6: I am still in first stages of grief gradually coming to terms with the tragedy of losing him.  So, I understand losing a child.  

I completely understand your need to get answers.  But believe that is not always really what we want, or that it will help you deal with loss.  They are gone : that is the raw reality you are dealing with.

For awhile after my son's murder by his father, my daughter and others kept wanting to know all the details and quizzed me as to 'why'.  Only God knows the answer to that question.

I sense you may have anger against doctors who cared for your daughter.  You can imagine the anger I could harbor against my ex husband who killed one of my sons, and seriously injured the other.  He thought he'd killed them both and drove off, not guessing that the surviving son would be airlifted to hospital before he bled out.  I focus on my dead son, sending him love, thanking him for everything he gave me while here.

Whatever actions your daughter's doctors could have taken or didn't take is in the final analysis unimportant.  Whether my ex husband is convicted of murder or a lawyer gets charges reduced is irrelevant.  

  I miss my son as you miss your daughter.  We can continue to love and pray for them.  I think of my son's spirit as free to continue his journey on the other side.

You will be in my thoughts and prayers.

[trish934]

Gosh...i am now reading this and tear full my eyes i will keep you in prayers ah matter of fact i'll do right now.........................................cause i can empathized how painful this was I am soo sorry for you lost will keep you in prayer for God's comfort and strength to face the days.
And you know what Isatter...your daughter and i shared the same BIRTHDAY. now this makes me all teary right now. Keep strong in the Lord God Almighty! and know we are always here your not alone in this. You can PM me.

[turkee23]

i am so sorry... this has brought tears to my eyes..... 2 lose both of your babies at once is just horrible....im soo soo sooorry.... i will pray for you. i sure the not knowing is one of the hardest things to deal with.....god bless you and your family

[Rucnfun]

im so sorry to hear that. i will pray for you. God bless you. I would be very curious as to what happened? It just seems odd that they BOTH died, I would definitely want answers to.
its hard to move on when there is no closure and answers. i hope that you will heal, and don't stop trusting in God because he will get you through this.