Condom slip male to female hiv risk

[Erock1990]

Hey I’m a bit freaked out about this scenario. I haven’t been tested for hiv in a while and I’ve had some unprotected sex with like five different woman in the past and I’m worried What if I have hiv from one of them . Anyways long story short it’s been years since I’ve had an hiv test so I’ve made it a thing to make sure I wear condoms for new parters so that I don’t infect them if I might have it. Well a few nights ago I was having sex with this woman and I was adamant about using condoms always with her well I guess I’m unlucky but I noticed when I couldn’t finish I pulled my thing out and there was no condom on it so now I’m freaking out like where did it go and it was stuck up in her. The sex lasted maybe ten mins and when I was behind her for a few mins is when I couldn’t finish and I decided to stop and that’s when I noticed it wasn’t attached to me anymore but up deep inside her . So I’m wondering if I should be worried like if I have it what’s her risk for me giving it to her? I know she would be severely angry with me and cuss me out and lord knows what else she would do if she found out I accidentally gave it to her if I had it . I’m so worried and can’t eat or sleep and I’m too scared to test right this second because I don’t know how she would react if I had it . Please help me assess my risk? Should I try and stay calm she said she was going to get tested in a few weeks so that scared me I guess for bad news thanks

[AnxiousNoMore]

Her test won't prove your status because of your previous unprotected vaginal.
If you have unprotected vaginal then you can get a conclusive test with a duo after 4 weeks, or any other test is conclusive after 3 months. So if you test neg now, that covers off the previous encounters, and she tests neg with a duo at least 4 weeks from her last unprotected vaginal  or anal (before she did it with you) , then you're both neg. Or, if you don't trust her, wait 4 weeks and take a duo then let her know you're conclusively neg.

[Erock1990]

I realize that I’m more concerned for infecting her if I have it what statistics wise on the risk for her getting something hiv from me if I had it . The condom was stuck in her and I had to help her pull it out so I know it was brief penetration or do you think more likely it came off when I took it out . I just want a risk assessment to help calm my nerves because if she finds out I accidentally gave her that then she’s going to come after me I bet

[AnxiousNoMore]

I can't calculate why or when it fell off. If you test now (with any test) you can stop worrying about infecting her, otherwise wait for 28 days and test to make sure she didn't infect you.

[Erock1990]

How can I stop worrying if I’m too scared of getting a positive result :(

[AnxiousNoMore]

I've never seen anyone turn positive on this forum, so it's rare. Just test and move on with your life, instead of spending it in misery worrying about something that you have zero control over.

[Erock1990]

Does anyone know the statistics from a male giving it to a female from this sort of incident? Like the chances of it happeneing? Numbers wise?

[Erock1990]

Like
If a male did have hiv and then had unprotected sex what would be the risk let’s say if he had hiv and wasn’t on meds and didn’t know he had it and then had unprotected sex with a female?

[CurfewX]

Any one-time event is extremely low risk. That's all I have to say, as I'm not going to accommodate your anxiety/fear of testing. You can test any time now to know your status for sure.

[Erock1990]

I’m too scared too tbh because I’m scared she’s going to be so upset if I accidentally gave her that and didn’t know I had it I tried practicing safe sex and that even failed eugh so now what ? Like what are the chances that I gave her that when the condom slipped off towards the end I must have been having sex with it off for a bit because it was all up inside her and I had to pull it out . I’m not worried she would give me thay I’m worried that since I haven’t had a test in years that maybe I gave her that and that would kill me

[AnxiousNoMore]

See a mental health therapist. You aren't making any sense - no one here can help you with that kind of problem.

[Erock1990]

I just wanted to know the make to female risk assessment is all ? I am making sense I’m asking the risk assessment on that

[AnxiousNoMore]

No, you aren't. See a mental health therapist.

[CurfewX]

This forum is for personal risk assessments, not hypothetical risk assessments. If you don't have HIV, there is no risk to anyone, and you can determine whether you have HIV RIGHT NOW by getting tested. It doesn't matter WHY you are afraid to test. We're not here to hand-hold you through your irrational fears.