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Protected tranny sex risk...
Hi,
I had protected sex with a tranny a few days ago, giving not receiving.
I was worried so I messaged and called her several times in which she ensured me the condom did not break and that she has no HIV or any other diseases and said she would never do what she does if she did. She said she is worried herself about HIV and the like and that she put herself in a higher risk than me.
Still, I am worried that she may not have been tested, although if the condom didn't break which she said it didn't and that she inspected it, I am no risk? I know I have no reason to be worried but I still am...
I had protected sex with a tranny a few days ago, giving not receiving.
I was worried so I messaged and called her several times in which she ensured me the condom did not break and that she has no HIV or any other diseases and said she would never do what she does if she did. She said she is worried herself about HIV and the like and that she put herself in a higher risk than me.
Still, I am worried that she may not have been tested, although if the condom didn't break which she said it didn't and that she inspected it, I am no risk? I know I have no reason to be worried but I still am...
HIV anxiety is gone, I know I don't have it and feel fine, 1 question though:
Can excessive pushing and prodding at the glands under the neck cause discomfort when swallowing and swelling for 3-4 days? I did this when I was anxious, pushed kind of hard a couple of times and they are still uncomfortble 3 days later... Not worried just curious?
Can excessive pushing and prodding at the glands under the neck cause discomfort when swallowing and swelling for 3-4 days? I did this when I was anxious, pushed kind of hard a couple of times and they are still uncomfortble 3 days later... Not worried just curious?
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Spoke to her again, she ensured that condom did not break and that she doesn't even sleep with many people.
She said repeatedly that she has no HIV and was tested 6 months ago.
Still I am struggling and everytime I cough or see a mark on my skin I think HIV, it's no longer the guilt because I just keep imagining what if I have HIV it would ruin my life.
I know intellectually I don't have it but I can't shake the anxiety permanently (only sometimes).
Advice??? Other than getting the 4 week test which is still 2.5 weeks away!
She said repeatedly that she has no HIV and was tested 6 months ago.
Still I am struggling and everytime I cough or see a mark on my skin I think HIV, it's no longer the guilt because I just keep imagining what if I have HIV it would ruin my life.
I know intellectually I don't have it but I can't shake the anxiety permanently (only sometimes).
Advice??? Other than getting the 4 week test which is still 2.5 weeks away!
Sorry I should note the bump is on the groin area near the base, it's hard to feel and notice though and I may have already had it...
My anxiety is pretty much gone, I still sometimes consider the possibility that I somehow got HIV and it scares the hell out of me, however these thoughts are fading and getting further in between.
The only reason I worried was because after 2 mins protected oral then 2 mins protected anal I asked to change position, at which point she CHANGED the condom, I have asked her countless times and she ensured me neither condom broke and she only wanted to change it because of the oral.
However... I have a small lump (pimple/boil like) just above the base of my penis, I do not know if I already had this before the encounter and it doesn't look like much or anything at all, can just feel a small bump... Do I have a need to be worried?
The only reason I worried was because after 2 mins protected oral then 2 mins protected anal I asked to change position, at which point she CHANGED the condom, I have asked her countless times and she ensured me neither condom broke and she only wanted to change it because of the oral.
However... I have a small lump (pimple/boil like) just above the base of my penis, I do not know if I already had this before the encounter and it doesn't look like much or anything at all, can just feel a small bump... Do I have a need to be worried?
Thanks guys, didn't see last 2 posts, I do have a gf so feel shocking about that etc.. The guilt will fade I am sure, thanks again
My bottom lip is swollen now (although I did do a lot of kissing with a girl last night)
I contacted the tranny again cos I'm so worried and she just said my prOblem is mental
I contacted the tranny again cos I'm so worried and she just said my prOblem is mental
Help I'm going mental over this, part of my bottom lip is swollen! (altho I did a lot of kissing with a girl last night)...
I contacted the tranny again and she just said she can't help me and that my problem is mental
I contacted the tranny again and she just said she can't help me and that my problem is mental
Buddy your not the first or will be the last to stress over this. Its quite common tbh. Guilt is the main cause of it. Some have cheated and feel guilty, some have guilt because they were drunk and regret what they did. All said and done, its just somthing you have to put behind you and move on. You used a condom so you had no risk, thats the main thing. Give it some time and you will move on from it, but just be assured you didnt have any risk.
Hiv anxiety is real but not justified in your case.You need to let this go or your anxiety will get worse.Don,t let the guilt over ride your ability to think rationally and realize that you never had a risk.
:S just can't stop stressing about it several times a day, and it's always on my mind ahh I don't know why when I know logically it's 0 risk
It was a one off, I am straight!
I once saw a female prostitute and had/have no such anxiety over it.
I think you may be right
I once saw a female prostitute and had/have no such anxiety over it.
I think you may be right
It probably has to do in part with anxiety over having an MSM encounter. Many people seem to confuse the concept of sexual transmission of HIV- somehow their brain misinterprets that as transmission through sexuality. But in reality the virus doesn't care who your partner was. The only thing that matters to the virus is whether it can contact the right cells so it can keep reproducing.
Why am I still worried then? Even tho I remember her asking to check the condom and has since reassured me it didn't break + she says she has no sti's and is herself very worried about them + this happened in a major city in a fairly upper class suburb.
Maybe because my nose has become a little more blocked since the incident (it was blocked and infected before said incident tho) 3 days ago. Why am I still worried? I'm hoping it will fade with time?
Maybe because my nose has become a little more blocked since the incident (it was blocked and infected before said incident tho) 3 days ago. Why am I still worried? I'm hoping it will fade with time?
Yes I do feel guilt, I was really drunk and dumb! I only get worried about it when I'm alone and at certain times of day when I start thinking ridiculous things such as what if she lied (unlikely as I had a 10 min phone convo with her reassuring me that she has no std's and the condom didnt break, I actually remember her checking it) or has contracted HIV recently without knowing it.
My nose has been blocked and draining, but I had this before the encounter as I had a sinus infection a week ago (before the encounter).
Illogical I know, so looking for further reassurance
My nose has been blocked and draining, but I had this before the encounter as I had a sinus infection a week ago (before the encounter).
Illogical I know, so looking for further reassurance
"I know I have no reason to be worried but I still am..."
It could be that you are conflating guilt or regret over that type of encounter with HIV risk. What your partner said was absolutely true- she most likely is using condoms to protect herself from her customers. But as you seem to know, it wouldn't have matter even is she was HIV positive- an intact condom is 100% biologically effective in preventing HIV transmission.
It could be that you are conflating guilt or regret over that type of encounter with HIV risk. What your partner said was absolutely true- she most likely is using condoms to protect herself from her customers. But as you seem to know, it wouldn't have matter even is she was HIV positive- an intact condom is 100% biologically effective in preventing HIV transmission.
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