Should I take PEP

[kyledoogie85]

I am a gay male who hooked up with someone I met at a bar last night.  I started by performing unprotected oral sex on him.  While I was doing this he started to finger me with hand lotion.  Then he put a condom on and used the hand lotion as a lubricant.  As he inserted into my anus I told him to stop because it hurt and that he needed to use lube.  He got lube, but did not replace the condom.  We had sex and I finished, and he took the condom off and ejaculated on my chest.  As I was cleaning up I noticed blood on the tissue paper.  I went home and took a shower.  This morning I checked the tissue paper and there was a little blood, but no pain.  I am stressing out that I am at risk for hiv because he put jergens hand lotion on the condom and that I started bleeding during anal sex.  I texted the guy I hooked up this morning to confirm that he is clean and he insists that he is clean and that he only practices safe sex.  Should I go to the Emergency Room to get PEP?

[kyledoogie85]

I want to conform that oil based lotions can weaken a condom making it easier to break.  If a condom does not break because of the oil based lubricants that would be safe sex and low risk.  I wanted to confirm this because I got an email from HIV hotline stating that condoms that are weakened because of lotion but don't break are still a risk

See email response below:

"As you mentioned in your email, using lotion as lube can deteriorate the condom. If it didn't break, there was definitely a lower risk of and fluid exchange through it, but it could have still occurred due to weakening in the condom. If the person who you had sex with told you that he was negative, I would trust him, but I still  recommend that you get tested for HIV after three months (that's how long it takes for most tests to be conclusive) just to be sure."

[malbat]

Kyledoogie85.. You are correct. We warn against oil based lubricants because it weakens the condoms and makes it easier to break. Not create tiny holes that allows HIV to seep through. If the condom did not break, you have no risk. Be well.

[malbat]

If the condom did not break during penetration, you have had protected sex. Protected sex us safe sex. You had no risk and don't need to test nor PEP.

[kyledoogie85]

Thank you.  Using the hand lotion as a lube at the beginning was a mistake, but since the condom did not tear or break during sex, I should just get checked regularly and not seek out PEP treatment.

[kyledoogie85]

Just wanted to add that the condom did not break