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Unprotected receptive vaginal sex
I recently had unprotected receptive vaginal sex with my on/off bf. He assured me he hadn’t been with anyone and was clean. We both performed Oral on each other. He did not come in my mouth in my vagina on my stomach or at all. He knew I did not want him to come inside me now that it’s over and it’s been four days, I’m now freaking out and questioning everything. My health anxiety is really bad especially around contracting HIV. It’s a huge fear. I’m freaking out and cannot work. I am looking for professional opinions regarding risk? I know there is always some risk and I will get tested. Just need some reassurance. Thank you.
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The risk of getting HIV via vaginal sex is really low. That's not to say it doesn't happen, but it's lower than anal sex. Besides, there's no real reason to think that he has HIV.
You can always ask him to test to help ease your mind. Given your high anxiety over HIV, that would be a best practice with this and any future partners prior to having unprotected intercourse.
You can always ask him to test to help ease your mind. Given your high anxiety over HIV, that would be a best practice with this and any future partners prior to having unprotected intercourse.
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Thank you for your kind response! That does make me feel somewhat better. I guess I question whether or not, he’s being truthful because he’s been known to lie in the past and is somewhat of a runaround. He does not engage in drugs, or sex with men to my knowledge, and I have asked him point-blank, and he denies that, and I have no reason to believe that, but my health anxiety is terrible! I am completely OCD fixated on the whole HIV risk thing. I know that he has a past as a womanizer and he’s also an alcoholic, so people like that lie a lot. I guess I’ve never really fully trusted anything he says. I feel like all I’m doing is waiting around to get sick or get tested and it’s the worst feeling I’ve ever experienced.
You are worried because you don't trust him, so it seems that either you or he has to test to make you stop worrying. A duo test is conclusive 4 weeks after your (of his ) last unprotected vaginal exposure.
If he's negative you didn't even have a risk, so that's all I would focus on while waiting.
If he's negative you didn't even have a risk, so that's all I would focus on while waiting.
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