Hi
I am after some advice. I am not out as a gay man and find it difficult to have a regular partner. I have only had sex 3 times with a man and it was all safe mutual masturbation. I can not come out at the moment to family but have been chatting to a man online we have had cyber sex and regular text each other.
Two weeks ago we met and had mutual masturbation which from the forums confirmed no risk. I now feel as though I want to come out of my box a little but want to play it safe. I have asked his status and he advises that he has only been with 2 people but didnt say whether they were protected but advised that he doesnt sleep around.
To make sure I am safe and if I decide to take this further I was thinking of Kissing, mutual masturbation and oral with condoms. I am not sure how you start to trust someone other than to say lets get tested but as this is new I am thinking if I stick to the above I should be fine, and as we get to know each other go down the testing route. However I am finding it uncertain as to how to deal with this risk of meeting someone online as I cant meet people any other way due to my circumstances.
Is anyone else in my position, can anyone give advise on how they deal with the HIV risk when meeting someone new and after all sex is enjoyment but this is in the back of my mind which stops the enjoyment part.
Thanks. Hope I havent rambled would just like some advice please
Thanks
Alan