my gf is breaking with me because I have hep b

[JLZhang]

i was born with hep b and i told my gf about it when we first dated, and she has been fine with it. But she recently told her parents about it, and they were really mad about it. they said there is no way that they would agree for us to be together.

i was going to propose to her next month and now she said she couldn't take the pressure from her parents no more...and she wanted to end the relationship!

what should i do? i feel like killing myself....

[ohboyohboy]

I meant JLZhang not bbery

[EmilyBaker]

Sorry for the late post. It's been awhile since I log on. I had the same experience after diagnose with inactive Hep B. My then boyfriend broke up with me after hearing the news. First time in my life, a man broke up with me when i need the support the most. I understand and know the neglect, self pity, fear, and self isolation. Living with this disease, you are more limited with choices on who are your best friend and significant other. Along with your health concern, you will face social concern as well.

But for me, the breakup experience is a good one. Imagine I married him and he leave me. I don't want to waste years to find out that. If someone love you, they will accept that. I agree your choice is more limited. For my case, I still have marriage proposals even after hearing my conditions. I still have people come up to me and ask for dates on the street. But, i evaluate deeper into a person's character now than i ever did before. My current boyfriend support and love. I told him after two months of dating and he fully except it.  Surround your life with friends and family. It could be good thing in disguise. Sorry for intrude, if your gf loves you, I don't think her family will be an issue. I am not sure where you are from. I live in USA so our tradition might be different. I do have asian background so I do understand that tradition as well :)

Best wishes for you through tough time.

[cajim]

From your last name "Zhang" you may be Chinese or read Chinese.  Read the lab sheets here:  http://www.medhelp.org/personal_pages/user/900408.  Hep B may not be as frightening when it is curable like a common cold, not just controllable.  Follow up on the development.  Best wishes!

[cajim]

This is the right link:   http://www.medhelp.org/posts/Hepatitis-B/Can-HBV-be-cleared--not-just-controlled--NOW/show/947024

[Peteshine]

Guys,

You make me so proud..... Proud to have accepted that i have HBV and proud that i can communicate with other people in the same situation as myself and not treating HBV as a death sentence. There were so many interesting points from everyone on this thread that it would be impossible to reference it. Firstly, i'm sure we all went thru the same questions when we found out we had HepB.... The most important one for me was 'will i die young'... The investigation into current treatment is on-going, the fight is still on-going and sooner than later i'm sure they will come up with even better treatment. Whether we will ever be able to smash this disease is another thing but just knowing (and being able to do something about it) is as good as gold in my opinion. You have it, you know you have it, look after yourself.

God has a plan for each person and like Kellyf said its not about how long you have left on this earth but rather what you do with the time you have here...

Theres me being a slight hypocrite in being all positive as one who has never felt the pain of being rejected by a partner simply because of another obstacle in life ( i do feel ya) but i think it would be best to do your research, have a sit down and take it from there.....

[Sumei000]

I had the same experience like you. I told the man that I date on the first day. He said nothing. I met his family too. I even explained to him that my dad, he is a blood donor all his life. In fact my mom, she is a Hep B carrier and i am a carrier too. I also told him that my brother married to a non carrier and the baby tested, he is non Hep B carrier. On the second date, he called off the relationship with me due to the problem I had. I was very sad even thought is only second date. He was very nice to me. He told me he has the same feeling like me how I felt for him. We even had sex with condom on the second date. He gave me so much hope and make me feel so good for accepting me. Now,I felt like he putting a knife into my heart.

The feeling that I had now is ....I got no hope of getting anyone into my life. Who want to have a girlfriend with hep B? I felt like killing myself too. I am lost! After reading all those commend above, I still don't feel good. The percentage of getting someone or for someone who can accept me like how my dad accept my mom...chances are...may be less then 1%. This is so unfair to me and to the people who are Hep B carrier. I never experience anything like someone rejected me cos of Hep B.

Tell me how to make the guys understand me with my situation? In order to accept me!

I am really lost! I am very up sad...and disappointed.