IgM positive, but IgG negative in ex and myself

[italianstalion]

So I was in a relationship, where we did not have vaginal intercourse or oral sex but did have skin on skin intereaction close to our genitals and kissing.  I went in about five weeks after our break up just to get checked out and found out to have positive HSV IgM, but negative HSV IgG type 1 and type 2  (0.07 and 0.03) about five weeks after our last intimate exposure.  We dated for about 6 weeks and after these tests I called her so she could also get tested.  She was found to have a negative HSV IgG type 1 and 2 which the test was done from what I assume about three months since she had sex with someone else before we were dating.  So after reading these forums and putting the two together, isn't it very unlikely that both of us have HSV?  I am planning to check my IgG at the 3 and 6 month mark after our last exposure with my ex just to make sure.  Btw, my primary care doctor told me that that I definitely have herpes just from the IgM resuts.  I have never had symptoms besides a small sore in my mouth last week that resolved in less than 24 hours and was not painful but just tingly, likely just my being paranoid about it.  I got it cultured at the clinic but still waiting on the results.  Thank you, any advice is appreciated.

[gracefromHHP]

http://www.medhelp.org/posts/Herpes/Follow-up-after-igm/show/1309664  is a poll going on if you don't mind participating in it. I know a few folks would love to have more respondents to it :)

congrats and I'm glad you found accurate info for follow up testing :)

grace

[italianstalion]

for my own peace of mind, I did a 6 month test and my IgG's and IgM were all negative...a lesson to all those out there, the IgM test is NOT even worth the peice of paper that it is written on!  Please do not let it stress you out, just do not get it done in the first place.

[italianstalion]

thank you for your reponses, yea the clinic needlessly added alot of stress in my life.  I forgot to mention that we did do mutual masturbation but from what I have read in these forums, the risk of transmission is incredibly low

[gracefromHHP]

honestly there was no reason for any testing from your relationship with this gal. Yes youc an get herpes from naked fooling around but the risk is incredibly low of it happening.

Your igm was most likely falsely positive. the clinic erred in even drawing it on you and now all it's going to do is make you spend more money needlessly.  Honestly I don't even recommend any follow up igg testing from this.

grace

[Mistakeguy789]

A lot sadly of doctors believe the IgM tests are showing new infections when they cross reactive and even their own test chemistry don't get it right. There is a handbook you can give your doctor if you wish but really you can take your negative results and be happy.

[italianstalion]

Yes, she got tested last week and her last sexual encounter was three months ago. Thank you for your reply, gosh, my doctor even wrote me for Valtrex to take for a year

[Mistakeguy789]

Read the link:

http://www.medhelp.org/user_journals/show/173049/Herpes-IgM-Testing?personal_page_id=991408

You don't really clearly state the time frame when she got the test.  If she was faithful and her last sexual encounter was 3 months past during which time you dated then you are negative.  So if you dated for 3 months since her last sexual encounter and she tested when you called her then you can move forward without worry of having HSV.  You don't have it and no need to test at 3 or 6 months.  

My journal post talks about IgM testing.  If you still have questions feel free to ask.