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Genital HSV1
Let me give you some background info. In 2006 I was dating a man who performed oral sex on me. After this happened, I had severe burning upon urination and had some lesions. I went to the doctor, who looked at me and said it looked like a herpes infection, but he couldn't be sure. At this time he did not perform a culture.... I sort of put it on the back burner, out of sight out of mind. I had boyfriends during this time, but to my knowledge never had unprotected sex, and did not receive oral sex. Fast forward to 2011. I hadn't had any other sores or symptoms since the initial outbreak, until one day in 2011. I went to the clinic, where they did a culture on my labia, and it came back as HSV 1. Since then, I've told every single partner that I carry the cold sore virus, and don't usually have any issues. Here are my questions.
1. Do I need to track down any man I've ever had with to tell them of this diagnosis. We're talking about the period of time that I did not have a confirmed diagnosis.
2. What if someone's penis touched me and I wasn't aware? I've still only had maybe 4 outbreaks in this entire 7 year period.
3. Do I just move on? I have a severe anxiety issue. And I don't want to stress about this when I feel like it's a non-issue.....
Please help!
1. Do I need to track down any man I've ever had with to tell them of this diagnosis. We're talking about the period of time that I did not have a confirmed diagnosis.
2. What if someone's penis touched me and I wasn't aware? I've still only had maybe 4 outbreaks in this entire 7 year period.
3. Do I just move on? I have a severe anxiety issue. And I don't want to stress about this when I feel like it's a non-issue.....
Please help!
no you are not obligated to tell past partners about your genital hsv1 infection. You are supposed to be informing any potential partners prior to sexual contact.
if the contact was so brief that you weren't even aware that a penis was touching you, you don't have to worry.
grace
if the contact was so brief that you weren't even aware that a penis was touching you, you don't have to worry.
grace
Hi Grace. Thanks for the helpful answer. Like I said, this was almost 7 years ago, so I really don't know if his unprotected penis touched me, or entered me without a condom. We worked together for several years afterwards, he never mentioned anything to me. He is now engaged, and part of a happy family. Should I just start over and move on. This is ideally what I want to do, I don't want to open a can of worms when I feel like it's not necessary.
Because I technically was diagnosed 7 years ago, he said he it looked like herpes, but didn't culture me.... And I had boyfriends afterwards.
be sure to discuss your herpes with future partners so you can make educated decisions together as to what precautions to take. make sure they get tested for herpes too since you can still contract hsv2 plus you have to know their hsv1 status.
So I'm ok then to move on with my life? And to be happy again and not be guilty all the time for no reason?
Grace, I just want to tell you that you're doing all of us a great service :) thank you for your kindness, compassion, and infinite knowledge! Rock on girl!! :)
i guess i feel bad because the doc basically told me thats what it was, gave me some meds and then i was fine for years.... it didnt even cross my mind for all those years because i was and am asmptomatic. do me a favor, tell me to just move on :) and that im not a bad person
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Herpes spreads by oral, vaginal and anal sex.
Herpes sores blister, then burst, scab and heal.
STIs are the most common cause of genital sores.
Millions of people are diagnosed with STDs in the U.S. each year.
STDs can't be transmitted by casual contact, like hugging or touching.
Syphilis is an STD that is transmitted by oral, genital and anal sex.
