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I tested + for HSV2. My number was 7.3. Could this be incorrect? .
My boyfriend and I have been together for years (and I believe he was only with me) and we used protection. I am not in denial & prepared to accept the diagnosis. I am also prepared to accept that my boyfriend could have cheated. I have never had any OB, symptoms or indications that would make me think I would test positive. Also,I got tested in 2012 & was negative. I have been careful with previous partners. Any advice is appreciated I got retested today just to be sure.
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I know it's confusing and hard to accept, but first, make sure that you were tested for herpes in 2012. You may not have been - it's not part of routine STD testing now, and sure wasn't in 2012.
Also, make sure that the test you got was type specific, and differentiates between type 1 and type 2, that you have separate results for each, and make sure it's an IgG test.
If it is all of those things, and you were tested correctly, and tested negative in 2012, and the retest confirms your infection, then you were indeed infected sometime between 2012 and now. However, this doesn't mean your boyfriend cheated. It's quite possible that he had it and didn't know - 90% of those with herpes don't know they have it because their symptoms are so mild they don't recognize them as herpes, or they get no symptoms. He could have had it prior to your relationship, and didn't know.
If you are indeed positive, and this is the only indication that your boyfriend may have cheated, wait to see what he says. It's not enough info to state for sure that he did. I wonder if you already suspect something, or you probably wouldn't be testing for herpes (and other STDs?) years into a relationship when you aren't symptomatic, unless you are pregnant or something.
You should both read the Herpes Handbook at https://westoverheights.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/08/Updated-Herpes-Book.pdf. It's free and written by one of the world's leading herpes experts.
Good luck, and let us know what your retest says.
Also, make sure that the test you got was type specific, and differentiates between type 1 and type 2, that you have separate results for each, and make sure it's an IgG test.
If it is all of those things, and you were tested correctly, and tested negative in 2012, and the retest confirms your infection, then you were indeed infected sometime between 2012 and now. However, this doesn't mean your boyfriend cheated. It's quite possible that he had it and didn't know - 90% of those with herpes don't know they have it because their symptoms are so mild they don't recognize them as herpes, or they get no symptoms. He could have had it prior to your relationship, and didn't know.
If you are indeed positive, and this is the only indication that your boyfriend may have cheated, wait to see what he says. It's not enough info to state for sure that he did. I wonder if you already suspect something, or you probably wouldn't be testing for herpes (and other STDs?) years into a relationship when you aren't symptomatic, unless you are pregnant or something.
You should both read the Herpes Handbook at https://westoverheights.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/08/Updated-Herpes-Book.pdf. It's free and written by one of the world's leading herpes experts.
Good luck, and let us know what your retest says.
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Thank you very much for all of your advice & explanations. I have been suspicious of his behavior. I was tested for all STDs and this was the only one that came up positive. He claims that he had been faithful, tested negative and has never had anything. Before this goes any further, I wanted to double check. I am riding an emotional roller coaster right now and just want definitive answers. Thank you so much. :)
You're quite welcome.
A note about his test results - he may have tested for lots of things, but herpes isn't always included in routine STD tests, even if you ask for everything. Have him get copies of his test results to know for sure that he was indeed tested. Many people assume it's included, and when they get the call that everything was fine, they think that means they have no STDs. I'm not accusing him of lying - this is a real limitation with STD testing in many countries, and the US is better than some, but still not great. (I don't know where you are located.)
Good luck!
A note about his test results - he may have tested for lots of things, but herpes isn't always included in routine STD tests, even if you ask for everything. Have him get copies of his test results to know for sure that he was indeed tested. Many people assume it's included, and when they get the call that everything was fine, they think that means they have no STDs. I'm not accusing him of lying - this is a real limitation with STD testing in many countries, and the US is better than some, but still not great. (I don't know where you are located.)
Good luck!
UDATE: I got my second results back with an IGg test and it confirms that it is in fact HSV2. I’m very confused and dealing with this news the best way I know how. My boyfriend, now ex, has refused to get tested and is blaming me for everything. He has called me all kinds of horrible names. This behavior makes me believe that he was cheating. I’m still processing everything. I want to thank those that responded for their information and support. I will continue to use these boards as a source of information. Everyone has been so helpful.
Thank you.
Thank you.
I'm sorry he's being such an *** about the whole thing. Even if he didn't cheat and didn't know he had it, his reaction shows a side of him you are better off knowing about now rather than later, and I'm glad he's your ex, though I'm sure it all hurts badly.
Make sure to read the Herpes Handbook - https://www.cdc.gov/std/treatment/2010/qanda/herpes.htm - if you haven't already. (It's still free.)
We're here if you need us. :)
Make sure to read the Herpes Handbook - https://www.cdc.gov/std/treatment/2010/qanda/herpes.htm - if you haven't already. (It's still free.)
We're here if you need us. :)
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