Doesn't make sense (HSV questions)

[doktorhuxtible]

Hi there -

I have been with my girlfriend for 1.5 years - Before the relationship I tested Neg via blood for hsv 1 and 2.
We have had unprotected ruff sex since day one - Even on occasion when I had breaks and tears in the skin etc.

Now 1.5 years into the relationship she got some random spot on her Vag and had it swabbed at the clinic, this was the first instance of her EVER having anything she was concerned about, and it didn't present in the typical herpes fashion, the doctor said they were not sure hence the swab - They originally lost her specimen, then recovered it before reporting to her that she was positive for HSV2.

I just tested today via planned parenthood and came back Neg! WTH!?? How can I have sex with this person almost every day, ruff nasty sex (Sorry, for being explicit) and still not catch it?

She went to planned parenthood to confirm via blood test and will not have results till next week.

She told me the same doctor that saw me told her that * I could be a carrier, but it not show in my blood ever * (Nor ever have an OB) - I do not believe this statement.

She said the same doctor told her to continue to take the valtrex, and carry on with our normal sex life - I.E. No protection - Again something I do not believe...Not sure who to believe...or whats happening!?

My thoughts are this is a recent infection for her - Although she states not.
To complicate things when we first got into the relationship a friend told me after the fact that one of my girlfriends past partners had given HSV2 to everyone he slept with - I at that point told my friend "Well maybe she got lucky" as she hadn't had symptoms EVER.

So let me rehash -

1. Can I be a carrier - No symptoms and negative blood tests (hsv1 and 2) for the past 5 years? (Unlikely in my opinion)
2. Could her swab have been wrong (Maybe lab mix up)
3. Continue having unprotected sex!?? Really??? (Not trusting that one)
4. My doctor said maybe I have one hell of an Immune system (Unlikely, I smoke, and caught HPV - Bowenoid Papulosis)
5. Wonder if this is a recent infection - Which would make sense why I didn't catch it after a year and a half of B to the wall sex.

Any comments or thoughts are appreciated - This sucks...She feels like crap, we are both worried.

I went and had a blood test

[doktorhuxtible]

This just got more interesting planned parenthood and I spoke and the physician said not to change sex practices  since we have been together so long and just don't have sex when she has an outbreak. The doctor also told me that even though I always test negative with them I may actually have it and just never produced enough antibodies for it to be detected in my blood. That kind of goes against everything  I have heard and or read on this site and any other. Thankfully I do realize it's just an inconvenient  skin disorder. I'm just concerned about planned parenthood lax attitude  in terms of transmission. I realize their point though,  valtrex and no outbreak like 1 or 2% chance is pretty low, while not impossible.

[doktorhuxtible]

This is a crappy situation - I feel it is going to be tuff to tell her "No we have to use condoms" - She already feel "Toxic" as she put it. I don't want to further alienate her as I love her, but I am NOT willing to get a life long disease just for a little extra pleasurable feeling during sex.

[Life360_Dave]

Hi,
1. there i no such thing as a carrier. If you test negative 3 months post any exposure you are negative.
2.The swab may be wrong as a lab mix up. If she tests negative for the recent blood test that would confirm this. However, not knowing her personal life, i cannot comment that she did not just acquire. So blood testing 3 months from the outbreaks would be necessary to confirm this.
3. Be careful with unprotected sex till all this is confirmed but her taking meds would reduce any risk to you at least by 50%.
4. wrong.  people can have unprotected sex for years even with a herpes sore at the time and still not contact it.
5. maybe