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PLEASE GUIDE ME
So I have been going out with my bf for 6 months now. Before him I have not slept with anyone else for 5 months.
Wednesday 11/12/13: i woke up and notice a small bad hair lump down my vagina, right at the opening of the outer lips just before the clitoris (white skin), Thursday 12/12/13: my glands at the pubic area were big and kind of painful so i called my doctor. After when I was done with work i have visited her office(dermatologist). Now the lump was bigger and i felt burning in the inner lips as well. Doctor said it must have been an infection from staphylococcus and subscribed some medicine(Doxat). she has told me if it does not go away after two weeks i should be going back for blood tests. Friday 13/12/13: the lump had pus and so did one smaller that appeared opposite the first one again at the opening of the outer lips. On Sunday i woke up feeling pain and i noticed blisters. I was feeling discussed with myself and i called my gyno who was not at his office but another doctor was in so i went. At first look she said she was sure it was herpes. I was feeling weak and started crying. On Monday 16/12 I had some blood taken and so did my partner but in a different clinic from mine. His test came back negative and mine came back positive for combination of HSV1&2 in igg and negative for igm. I run to another dermatologist who said it does not seem that i was currently infected with herpes and that she saw a crack where the first lump was and that it looked to her that it was an infection. The blisters at that point were not big but she did notice them. She gave me some cream to use for a week or two and subscribed me Tricef 400 and told me to use condom.
Me and my bf have been having unprotected sex for 4 months since i have started contraceptive pills.
Here are my questions:
1)How can it be having an outbreak and igm was positive?
2)Should i run more blood tests and when again?
3)How can my bf not been infected since we were having unprotected sex?
4)Shall i be having antiviral medicine? I really do not wan to transmit it to him!
5)I know just condom is not 100% safe. Is our sex life ruined?
I really want to save this relationship. I am thinking about this incident all the time. Today is Sunday 11/12 and the lumps, blisters and buνring have gone leaving me with two tiny scars where the lumps have been.
I am so freaked out and confused since visiting 3 different doctors and having 3 different opinions did not help AT ALL!
Please help :(
Wednesday 11/12/13: i woke up and notice a small bad hair lump down my vagina, right at the opening of the outer lips just before the clitoris (white skin), Thursday 12/12/13: my glands at the pubic area were big and kind of painful so i called my doctor. After when I was done with work i have visited her office(dermatologist). Now the lump was bigger and i felt burning in the inner lips as well. Doctor said it must have been an infection from staphylococcus and subscribed some medicine(Doxat). she has told me if it does not go away after two weeks i should be going back for blood tests. Friday 13/12/13: the lump had pus and so did one smaller that appeared opposite the first one again at the opening of the outer lips. On Sunday i woke up feeling pain and i noticed blisters. I was feeling discussed with myself and i called my gyno who was not at his office but another doctor was in so i went. At first look she said she was sure it was herpes. I was feeling weak and started crying. On Monday 16/12 I had some blood taken and so did my partner but in a different clinic from mine. His test came back negative and mine came back positive for combination of HSV1&2 in igg and negative for igm. I run to another dermatologist who said it does not seem that i was currently infected with herpes and that she saw a crack where the first lump was and that it looked to her that it was an infection. The blisters at that point were not big but she did notice them. She gave me some cream to use for a week or two and subscribed me Tricef 400 and told me to use condom.
Me and my bf have been having unprotected sex for 4 months since i have started contraceptive pills.
Here are my questions:
1)How can it be having an outbreak and igm was positive?
2)Should i run more blood tests and when again?
3)How can my bf not been infected since we were having unprotected sex?
4)Shall i be having antiviral medicine? I really do not wan to transmit it to him!
5)I know just condom is not 100% safe. Is our sex life ruined?
I really want to save this relationship. I am thinking about this incident all the time. Today is Sunday 11/12 and the lumps, blisters and buνring have gone leaving me with two tiny scars where the lumps have been.
I am so freaked out and confused since visiting 3 different doctors and having 3 different opinions did not help AT ALL!
Please help :(
Best Answer
Take a deep breath, dear. You'll be fine.
Yes, you need more - better - tests. BOTH of you need to re-test at 16 weeks past your first symptoms. Ask your doctor for either the IgG type-specific blood test (good) or the Western Blot (best). Disregard the IgM.
We don't shed virus 24 hours a day, so it's certainly possible your boyfriend just got lucky. However, you don't have conclusive test results, so it's also possible you don't have the virus at all - your symptoms don't quite sound like herpes. Make sure first, with more reliable tests.
Go back and ask for a suppressive (daily) antiviral prescription. You have every right to one - tell your doctor you want to avoid transmission to your partner, and that suppressive medication reduces the risk about 50%.
If nothing else, use a condom with every sexual contact, especially since you don't really know your status yet. Condoms provide about 30% protection against transmission.
Did you share your results with your boyfriend? If so, it appears he still wants to continue the relationship, so I feel you're in better shape than you might think.
Yes, you need more - better - tests. BOTH of you need to re-test at 16 weeks past your first symptoms. Ask your doctor for either the IgG type-specific blood test (good) or the Western Blot (best). Disregard the IgM.
We don't shed virus 24 hours a day, so it's certainly possible your boyfriend just got lucky. However, you don't have conclusive test results, so it's also possible you don't have the virus at all - your symptoms don't quite sound like herpes. Make sure first, with more reliable tests.
Go back and ask for a suppressive (daily) antiviral prescription. You have every right to one - tell your doctor you want to avoid transmission to your partner, and that suppressive medication reduces the risk about 50%.
If nothing else, use a condom with every sexual contact, especially since you don't really know your status yet. Condoms provide about 30% protection against transmission.
Did you share your results with your boyfriend? If so, it appears he still wants to continue the relationship, so I feel you're in better shape than you might think.
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Herpes spreads by oral, vaginal and anal sex.
Herpes sores blister, then burst, scab and heal.
STIs are the most common cause of genital sores.
Millions of people are diagnosed with STDs in the U.S. each year.
STDs can't be transmitted by casual contact, like hugging or touching.
Syphilis is an STD that is transmitted by oral, genital and anal sex.
Your first symtoms dont appear herpes related as herpes sore are not puss filled and would not be on both sides.
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