Please Help: EXTREMELY WORRIED

[Bruce463]

Hello, I am a 21 year old male who has recently got into a relationship with a girl I have met.  We have been dating for only about a month now.  She told me today that her previous partner of three years notified her that he has had herpes for years now and could only of contracted it from her because she is the only person he's ever been with.  She then basically notified me that she herself has herpes.  The only sexual contact that we have had is oral sex.  I have given it twice and received it twice.  This occurred about 3 weeks ago and both occurrences happend in the span of 2 days over one weekend.  She is apparently not symptomatic but carries the disease.  After finding this information out about her, I immediately checked myself.  I noticed one very very small white region of skin near the top of my penis shaft on the underside, almost resembing a pimple.  The area was painless.  I pinched it a bit and a very small amount of solid puss like substance came out, but there was no liquid or blood accompanied with it.  After this the area was naturally red and appeared irritated but still painless.  I applied a small amount of neosporin to the affected area.  I also noticed a small bump near the top of my pubic hair region that was also painless but a bit red.  It was not sticking out or bulging and lies flat with the rest of the region.  It looks like an ingrown hair possibly or an ingrown pimple. I haven't had any cold sores or irritations in or around my mouth area.

I already suffer from anxiety as it is, and this has got me extremely worked up.  I have experienced a few nervous breakdowns already and I am seeking any type of information, or help regarding my issue.

My basic question is what are the odds that someone can contract herpes from two brief oral sex encounters with a non-symptomatic partner that carries the virus?  I am scheduling an appointment first thing tomorrow morning with my doctor, but until then I am desperately seeking some type of closure so I have a better idea of what might be going on.

Responses would be GREATLY appreciated.

Thanks Again.

[Bruce463]

Thanks, I'll keep you updated as soon as I find out anything at all.  Her results should be in by Saturday.  I have an appointment scheduled for Monday morning as well.

[gracefromHHP]

I can help you both with your test results when you get them. Just keep adding to this post.

grace

[emerald42]

I dont know (and I dont think the experts even know) the statistics, but I think that it's pretty low risk.

[Bruce463]

Thank you so much for your response.  She had blood drawn Wednesday and will be getting the results Friday or Saturday to determine if her body is building the antibodies to combat HSV.  If she does indeed have it, what do you believe are the odds I contracted either type of HSV from two brief oral encounters with her from your knowledge?

Thanks Again Grace.

[gracefromHHP]

At this point you need to ask her more questions. Ask her what testing she's had done. ask if she knows if she has hsv2 or hsv1.  

Your symptoms aren't likely to be herpes related. I fyou are bothered by them,see your provider for further evaluation.  Also a baseline herpes igg blood test for yourself is a good idea too to know what your herpes status is going into this.

grace