Contact as brief as 5 seconds is so highly unlikely to transmit anything. Herpes takes friction, usually the kind associated with intercourse, to transmit. I would not worry a single second longer about this.
Yes, you can get a sore from fabric friction. I can't say for sure that this is what caused your sore, but if you continually rub two things together, it will eventually cause irritation. If the seam, especially, was rubbing against the skin repeatedly, it could cause that sore.
Unfortunately, since you didn't get it tested, you don't have the negative test to ease your mind. I know you are scared of herpes, but not testing doesn't change the outcome. It just means you don't have a negative test to provide peace of mind.
Herpes sores typically appear between 2-12 days, with an average of 4. There are some outliers, of course. It is very possible to get genital hsv1 from oral sex. If you use condoms for oral sex, that reduces the risk.
You asked this question in other thread, but it's easier for us to have all your questions in one place, so I'm answering it here:
Hello to anyone,
I recently posted about a sore I thought I may have made myself by masterbating into my boxers. It did scab and fell off and now, 13 days later, a red spot still remains. I did not get it swabbed like I should've, but I am now convinced this was probably an outbreak.
I've previously tested negative for both HSV1 and HSV2 twice years before. After my last rounds of igg tests, I've had sex with a woman who tested negative a few times. I've never had sex with anyone else.
However, I have had physical contact with a woman whose herpes status is unknown. I've never had my genitals inside her's and we've never grinded on each other, although there were probably times I used my penis to lightly touch her from time to time in her groin area in a teasing way. I have also used my fingers on her.
We have done oral many times.
Question is, does HSV2 usually require grinding or rubbing to transmit? I know shedding could happen in the boxer area for her, but is it quantifiable? A lot? A little? Could this behavier, no sex but maybe some contact here and there, considered high risk?
Hoping that little spot, which I though might have been a friction burn but it lingering concerns me, is HSV 1 and not 2...trying to figure out possibilities before testing which, I know, is probably a crapshoot.
Thank you for any insite
You then added:
I should add...the woman I've had physical contact with is not just once. Several times a year for the past few years. No penetrative sex, just some touching and oral sex. If that info is needed.
Freaking out badly
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So grinding and rubbing can transmit herpes, but we don't really know specifically how much it takes. It does take more along the lines of intercourse than a quick rub.
Oral sex can transmit hsv1, giving you genital hsv1.
Has it been 12 weeks since your last possible exposure? The simplest thing to do is test. You can get a type specific IgG blood test to see if you even have antibodies. It's not perfect - it misses 30% of hsv1 antibodies, and it doesn't tell you where you have hsv1 - oral or genital - but it can rule out hsv2, and give you a good chance of not having hsv1 if you test negative.
Your doctor can test you or you can go to STDcheck.com, letsgetchecked.com healthlabs.com, or ultalabs.com in the US. If you are outside the US, let me know and I can find other places.
Not testing doesn't change the outcome. It just extends the time where you freak out.
I appreciate the advice. My last possible exposure to her groin area was seven months ago and very brief. Five seconds genital to genital. I have not seen any symptoms in that time. Only became concerned with what I think I hoped to be something I caused myself. I had spent years trying to be safe and am kicking myself at the possibility of hsv2.
And thank you for pointing me to where to go. I do know about those tests. Have had them twice years apart. Was hoping to never have to take them again. I'm hoping the chances of hsv2 are slim.
Heard about the 30 percent wrong on hsv1. Tested negative both times I took that test years apart.
And yeah, nothing changes the results. You're right.