Why aren't you comfortable going to a doctor? Don't worry - you won't be showing them anything they haven't seen before. Might as well buck up and start acting like an adult about your health care. Sooner or later you'll end up going in for something.
These could be what's called Fordyce spots. You can google it and see if it fits. I'm not sure, though, so don't quote me on that. :)
Try also the urology forum.
Do you have a reason to believe you have herpes genitally?
how can i find out what they are? any advice?
These are not herpes.
Good luck though.