Yup ME no seriously I do the day to day stuff and pay bills ,everything is in joint names Im not daft, but he does any investing , dare I say it the Stock Market!!!
I used to completely control the money, Joe didn't ever see his paychecks they went directly into my account and I would give him money if he asked but only if I KNEW what he was spending it on. The reason for that is that Joe was a drug addict so I had to in order to make sure he didn't blow all our money. Now that he is a recovering addict for going on 2 years I can trust him.
I also agree with Barbs views on this.
WOW!!!! as I was reading all the comments I was thinking exactly what you wrote. so now I dont have to type all that I feel the exact same way barb135 feeels
I recognize this guy as martyr material!! "Oh woe is Me"!! "How sorry can I get you to feel for me?"
There are several scenarios for this guy, but of course without knowing all the circumstances, it's impossible to say:
1) He might not like that he has to ask for permission to spend $5.00, but wants to appear "brow beaten" so the new ladies at work will feel sorry for him.
2) Then on the other hand - he might actually enjoy the idea that she's the boss, but still likes the idea that the ladies feel sorry for him.
3) Everything he's telling you might be a lie, but he enjoys the idea that you think he's the "underdog" and likes that you might feel sorry for him.
4) Maybe SHE abuses him. If that's the case, and he doesn't have the "umph" to get out of the relationship; or he stays in it so people will feel sorry for him.
No matter how you slice it, he enjoys having you feel sorry for him or think he's mysterious.
I have an opinion on this one but dare not say it.............
I just thought of something else too. There's no way to know the whole situation. What if he's a recovering addict so his wife wants to make sure his money isn't going to support the habit. There could be a lot of reasons for their set-up, not necessarily abuse.