Multiple Miscarriages (3) no pregnancy thus far?

[xtina98]

I have had 3 previous miscarriages no children thus far and am currently 9 weeks 3 days.  All 3 miscarriages were in first trimester.  One of the first two miscarriages I was able to pass the fetus and it looked to be maybe 11 or 12 weeks.  I was a smoker back then and did not take very good care of myself however, for the past 3 years or so I have not smoked and had a miscarriage a year ago and now... I'm currently pregnant.  Anyways, the Dr.'s say that everything looks really good at 9 weeks which is great and they seem to think that everything should go well.  However, I have been through this already 3 times and I just don't think I will feel that way until I have a baby in my arms. I have been on prometrium 100 mg/ day since week 6 and baby aspirin 81mg/ day since week 8.  I feel like there is something wrong with me and I just can't have kids... I have not had all the tests but honestly I feel like within the next 3 weeks that something will go wrong and the heartbeat will stop.  I don't know why this happens but there is nothing that tells me anything different.  I hope for the best of course and keep praying for just one.  I have a tilted uterus and am not sure if that is causing the problems or what.  Any advice or info on similar instances?  What is the average time for miscarriage??? Why does the heart stop beating all the sudden?  I have the heartbeat around 178 at week 9.

[xtina98]

okay I am 12 weeks now still nervous however, everything is looking promising so far.  I bought one of those fetal dopplers so I can check every so often and suprisingly it works it was hard at first finding it however, I kept trying until I did.  Stressed out wondering if this will be a successful pregnancy because I have had such horrible luck.  I keep praying though!

[xtina98]

Thanks for your encouraging words... I am trying to stay and think positive and just keep praying everything will be okay.  It is difficult because of my experiences however, I just have to keep telling myself the Dr. says everything looks really good, and I had a heartbeat still at 11 weeks however, it's hard to think this might come true.  I have had no luck in this department... however, I can just pray to God that he will give me this gift.  

[trying43]

I have had 2 m/cs and understand how u feel.  I have  3 healthy babies after my m/cs.  Having a tilted uterus isn't what caused it.  Its nothing u did or didn't do.  Unfortunately it sometimes just happens and we never know why.  The only explanation I got was low progesterone and even that was iffy.  We supplemented progesterone after that.  Try not to stress, I know easier said than done and just try to enjoy ur pregnancy the best you can.  It was so hard for me too but I just put it in gods hands and that gave me a sense of peace and got me through.(don't know if ur religious just lettin u know what worked for me.) Good luck to u.

[Ines01]

Hallo Xintia, is natural to feel fears and doubt after 3 pregnacy loos. I also had 2 pregn loss and I know hou it feel. But you shoud be positive, you are lucky 9 weeks preg. Don be worry bcs the emotional fears may afect your little one. It so important to stay in a good emotional side because you are pregnant that's the most amaizing thing. Chanses are on your side. Good luck,, kiss

[xtina98]

VDKALVR thanks for you post... I am trying it is just so hard because the last one I really wanted to have and it was with a different partner than the first 2.  It is just so hard for me having to wait for another ultrasound to see if the heart is still beating.  Talk about anxiety for me... I try not to think about it but it's all I can think about... why does this always happen and will it again?  I just want to know now if it will or won't happen.  My next appointment is Thursday and the days can't go by fast enough.  I haven't even told my mate for fear we get excited and it happens all over again.  It's so hard on me to keep it secret but I know it's for the best until I get through the danger zone.  I just hope this Thurs. the baby's heart is still ticking and everything still looks good.  Thanks for your post!

[VDKALVR]

Hun I understand your fears. I have had 6 miscarriages total the most recent on in Sept 2010.  I am 32 weeks pregnant and still have fears that something will go wrong and I too will lose this one.  Most of the time hearts stop beating due to some abnormality, and then a woman miscarries, the female body is a greater thing than anyone tends to give us credit.  The body will not contiue a pregnancy if the child will have certain issues, its part of the survival of the fitest senario.  I too have a tilted uterus as well, and my docs can not say why I have miscarried but they do not believe that the tilt has anything to do with me losing the pregnancies.  Try to keep your head up and think positively, I know this isnt the easiest thing to do, but positive thoughts have a way of bringing about positive results.